Its a bank holiday weekend here in the UK so Self Care Sunday can be followed by a more me time Monday. Today ive worked out, walked in the park, listened to music, batch cooked and later ill read my book and catch up on the first video and training in my meditation course. Tomorrow im recording more content and videos for this community as well as setting up a social calendar so we can get more from this space all together. What are you up to and how are you weaving in self care time. Tx

When i first start coaching people they usually come to me because they feel stuck, scared, lost, broken, frozen or in a state of feeling out of control. As we work together in the early stages of them making big shifts back into life but processing whats happened, grief and anger can come up at what they feel they have lost by having childhood trauma, years in toxic or abusive relationships, bad jobs, friends that have used them, parents who didn't show up for them, money they lost. And whilst its perfectly natural to grieve, feel sorrow and anger, and resentment and loss, the next phase after that is to step into positive psychology and see life now as the gift it is, to accept responsibility as the adult & driver of your life now, and to build the life of your dreams. That starts by knowing what you want and going for it. For me i felt deep sadness at growing up in poverty, not having many friends and having hardly any positive childhood experiences. My mission now as im building the life of my dreams is to embrace experiences that I would have wanted then, my inner child gets to be free & heard & joyful & to explore. Not everything has to be about work, purpose, mission, seriousness, there needs to be play, exploration, silliness, curiosity, no fucks given kind of energy. So in that spirit in two weeks im going to Butlins. In Bognar LOOL. Its kind of a kids camp, ive never been. Im going with my DJ friends and our group of TT community friends for a garage party event. We're driving down in a friends black cab, we're sharing rooms, we're dressing up, we're playing laser tag, maybe a pool party. Will it be cheesy yes, will some people think its mental for a 45 year old women to go to Butlins holiday camp with friends off TikTok - most probably. Will it be an amazing weekend. I guarantee it. @Gemma Fairfield Lets get our outfits ready and go paint Bognar red LOL What experiences can you embrace now that you always wanted, knowing its never too late, you're not having a mid life crises, you're coming into you're own expression of unapologetic you.

This one can feel really confusing… You finally have a moment of calm… Things are actually okay… And then your body says: 🚨 “𝘕𝘰𝘱𝘦. 𝘚𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨’𝘴 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨.” Anxiety spikes. Your chest tightens. Your mind starts scanning for what you’ve missed. This is trauma. 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗳𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘂𝗿𝗲. When you’ve lived in survival mode for a long time, your nervous system gets used to danger being the norm. So when things slow down… When there’s quiet… When there’s safety… It can feel unfamiliar. And unfamiliar = unsafe to your system. Your body isn’t trying to sabotage you. It’s trying to protect you based on what it has learned. “𝘓𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘮… 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘢𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘥.” So now it stays alert. Just in case. This can show up as: 𝘍𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘹𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘚𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘨𝘨𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘹 𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘧𝘧 𝘋𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘮 𝘰𝘳 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘗𝘶𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘴𝘢𝘧𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘞𝘢𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘰 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 The work isn’t to force yourself to feel safe. It’s to gently teach your system that safety is possible now. Slowly. Repeatedly. At your pace. If this resonates with you, you’re not alone in it. What does “𝘴𝘢𝘧𝘦𝘵𝘺 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘶𝘯𝘴𝘢𝘧𝘦” look like for you? 👇

This survey was shared on Linked in and Im sharing here for those interested in putting forward their experience to help drive change. Survivors want change, and they want to drive change, and say in what services & policies come about. Individually we have share our lived experience but have never really been listened to but the power of over a thousand individuals will change that. This isn’t about one voice anymore, it about thousands of voices from all across the UK coming together with one thing in common- domestic abuse. This is now our time to speak our truth to power. If you have experienced domestic abuse I would encourage you to take part in the Our Own Words survey because change is coming 👇 https://lnkd.in/epQeqy3E

Hey beautiful souls, Im checking in to see how you all are. Ive been absolutely jam packed with work since coming back from holiday and had so much life admin coming at me its been bonkers. I would love, if you feel called to share, any glimmers, wins, successes, insights, a-ha moments or anything you would love to share to share some love, smiles or let me boost you up and clap for you. Tx