@Dr. Heath thank you! I learn something new everyday! That makes sense though bc I know there is nothing wrong with me wanting to help others. The problem was with the action of others continuing to take help instead of take care of them selves bc I was always able to do that until my actions to help others before myself became the addiction.

@Dr. Heath I absolutely agree!

@Christian Jordan for sure!!

@Winki Tracy it is important to accept that things that have already happened even as to 15 minutes ago are now a part of the past that cannot be changed or undone. It is hard to let go of memories at times. It is easier if we can change our environment to a more positive setting and occupy time with things of a healthier nature than dwelling on thoughts about what we can not change. For me...I rather focus on good memories rather than loss. Knowing that what has happened, happened out of my control and is not always for me to understand bc we are each on our own journey. Accept that what happened to another person no matter how close they are to us is not meant to keep us in a negative mindset but has something to teach us bc we live thru the experience. It was easier for me to accept that both my parents dying less than 3 years apart and me being the one to find them dead was not meant to break me down and make me depressed and sad wondering why. I actually look at as a blessing bc I got to see that they were taken care of properly and neither will have to face the deterioration of life (like cancer or dementia or broken bones or the changing world as far a media and government) they are at peace and will not worry them selves about being a burden to me to care for. Try to find a positive! I hope that helps! My heart goes out to you!

Using mind altering substances is a choice! Same as over-spending, over -eating, hoarding, or just flat out being a jerk! It's not focusing on what we perceive to be the actual cause of why we choose to do things that ultimately lead to addiction, debt, obesity, clutter, filth, and dislike from others. It takes someone willing to address their own issues and not let actions of others or their environment become their downfall by not changing their environment or "cutting out" the negativity.

@Dr. Heath then taking action to make the change!

It's seems like what a lot of people don't realize is that there is no number to the amount of "do-overs" we get in life. No one should think they are expected to "get it right" the first time around in ANY life experience. That's how we learn and figure out just what it will take in life to achieve happiness. There's no shame in admitting when wrong to he able to release the burden of guilt or consequence by simply acknowledging that we ARE NOT created to be perfect but are free to make choices to direct the outcome of our life purpose. Taking responsibility for your own actions is simply make the decision to be in control of your own thoughts and therefore actions. Positive choices lead to positive results and experiences and healthier happy life.

@Dr. Heath it's not always easy when to admit when wrong. But I look at it like this....even if I don't learn from my own mistakes and up repeating cycles, at least if I can be comfortable with and accept that I am going to make mistakes bc that IS part of learning, then recognize that wisdom comes from that learning and share the experience then hopefully another person can be touched by or maybe see a similarity to their own situation and take what they need from the story shared. Then maybe help them along their journey or at least maybe allow them to feel at ease that there is nothing wrong with them. Life happens and challenges are going to come up. The key is to not immediately stress and turn to crutches or chemicals but give oneself time to process and use the brain to achieve the most positive result for themselves and be in charge of their own life!