maybe someone has some good tips for me half a year ago I started a home study 'inner child therapy' at the moment I have reached a point where it is completely clear to me that I am still looking for confirmation / approval from my father the competitive behavior, over explaining my value, defending myself ... physical and emotional abuse was a daily occurrence ... the safe haven that you as a daughter look for in a father was the opposite i do not relate it from a victim role but because I can fully understand myself in this but I would like to change this of course so I can attract / create healthy relationships in the future my last relationship that I had was such a big mirror for me ... I realized that I repeatedly attracted emotionally unavailable partners and myself mainly fell back into a pattern of mainly giving and keeping the ‘peace ‘ as much as possible not indicating my boundaries and so on Maybe you have some nice additional tips for healing the fatherwound or letting go of approval ?thanks for your interest and reading my message 😊🙏🏼💫

Healing my inner child wounds didn’t just shift how I felt inside. It changed everything. I spent years pouring all my energy into trying to get love and validation. From relationships. Friendships. Even success. I thought I was making real choices. But most of it was just survival. I didn’t know I was trying to fill a gap I couldn’t see. Chasing love. Trying to fix people. People-pleasing. Saying yes when I meant no. Trying to prove my worth. And by the end of the day, I had nothing left. No energy for my dreams. No space to build the life I actually wanted. Toxic relationships drained me more than any job ever did. And I used to think the problem was the other person. But it was really my nervous system running the same loop over again. Still trying to get love externally. It wasn’t until I learned to feel love within that things started to shift. I stopped chasing and proving. No more building something just to have it fall apart. Because I realized something that hit hard: I had spent years building relationships that didn’t even work. So why not use that energy to actually build my future? Are you ready to break the cycle? Or do you want to keep giving all your energy away chasing or pleasing someone for them to never reciprocate in the same manner, just to try to fill that base desire? I played that game for far too long and decided it was enough. Once I did that, everything changed. I finally had the energy to build my dream life. To live my passion of helping others while traveling the world. If you’re tired of feeling stuck, here’s what actually helped me: 1.Feel the love within first. If you don’t, you’ll keep searching for it forever. 2.Heal the childhood wound. The one that keeps pulling you into the same dynamics. 3.Choose a new path. Because if you keep walking the same one, you already know where it ends. Are you ready to step into your own energy again? What is something that is taking away your energy that you could use it to build something?

Is just as, if not more important than a relationship with another. When you meditate, spend time alone with no distractions, go for runs; just about anything at all where you are alone with an empty mind - this is where we cultivate the best ideas, declutter the stresses of the day and process the downloads of the days prior. I really do believe theres a correlation between mental health and not spending enough time with the self. On top of this i always give my best energy in teaching others when i turn up for me😎

Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain

Woke up a Master's Graduate This by far has been the hardest thing l've done & committed to. I didn't come from a background of education, nor did I like school growing up. I truly wanted to give up a year ago in grad school and thinking this may have not been for me... having to persevere through the hard times has truly shaped and matured me to look passed the roadblocks in life. I thank God for always humbling me into the person he has created me to be. I put my identity in Him and not my accomplishments. Though, this master's degree has taught me that when I apply myself despite my circumstance - I'm able to achieve anything that I put my mind to.