1.20 Saw a woman I felt wildly attracted too. Nervous system reacts “Wow dude you sure you wanna do that??. What if you get seen infront of everybody?. Was at the store. “What if everybody sees me??” The mind screams. I Saw her multiple times, every time I imagined approaching, the ego (mind) said it felt weird and nerve racking, that I would be exposed. Shes going to think im creepy. No wait, Im creeping myself out, Ive never spoken to this stranger in my life, how can she know if im creepy or not. Real=Saw woman was attracted too. Chose not too approach Mental colouring=Everything else Am I close?

New Video. I am currently making a more practical video course on what to actually look for and measure when out socializing.....but for now, here is a video on something a bit more nuanced (this will be in a separate video course.. ( 2 video courses in the post ) The goal is for life to been seen as play (Lila)

1.22 I had 2 moments yesterday, I would like to input or feedback on. Also just wanting to share whats been going on. Met a woman, name was Amy. She had an incredible figure, and dressed incredible. She was a dwsigner, I asked her out for coffee. She said “let me think about it, when Im in here and I see you we can chat more hows that sound?”. I attempted twice, same response. I walked away feeling like I blasted through a barrier to a new level, like a rocket shooting into moon. The mind spoke too “Ah man how come im not worthy enough, what am i doing wrong?” It felt like I had truly felt like I was reaching a new level in talking to strangers or even approaching #2 There was a coworker Ive always had a good connection with. I worked there before, and recently I started working there again. We can banter, now its at a flirting level, it just feels right. We are now setting up a point to hang out. I felt very excited about it. The moment we walked away from eachother, the mind roared different things. “Omg im excited”. “What if she wants a relationship, then wont I feel trapped?”. Lots of other different thoughts creeped in. I am open to feedback and input.

“If every time someone asks you a question, and you try to say the right answer, your entire life becomes is a test. And when did you have the most anxiety in primary school or high school? No question - on test day. So your entire life becomes this test. I ain’t trying to say the right answer, I’m just doing what I feel My mamma said trying is failing, there is no: if’s, would’s, could’s, should’s - it just is, and we just are.” Whether you like Kanye or not, this quote is powerful. I think it applies very well to the theme of this group, though I’d share it with you guys :)

Wanted to highlight Daniels response here as it's so helpful. "But one way to shift perspective could be becoming someone who genuinely wants to learn. Then studying becomes more effortless - less pressure, more curiosity. Same with pickup. Instead of being the guy who “gets girls” - which creates pressure because it’s a goal with a success/fail condition - maybe it becomes “I just like talking to strangers.” That way, the act of approaching is the win. The rest is just a bonus." THIS :)