Spot how much the mind is resisting
To judge is to resist.
To not let her be as she is, is not love,.it's resistance.
You don't have the right to control her or how she can or should react.
So let her be
Let her be as she is, this is love...
Let her react however she reacts.
Let the moment be as it is.
Test the moment and see how you react.
To see that you are resisting is to take the first step in being okay with what is
Noticing your resistance is a huge and underrated step
This is where your true confidence or power is.