Hey boys thought I’d share something. I’ve released it wasn’t the weed I was addicted too, but deeper then that the story I’ve told myself for about 10 years. If anything weed is probably the worse in terms of building a story due to its psychedelic effects on the mind. It’s goes back to my ego where I was once good with women, then after the massive fall I took…. I’d Substitute that loss by smoking the merry Jane. I think there’s two things I need to do to move forward. Understand the story I’ve created, and rewiring that programming and replace it with good habits. What are your thoughts

Spot how much the mind is resisting To judge is to resist. To not let her be as she is, is not love,.it's resistance. You don't have the right to control her or how she can or should react. So let her be Let her be as she is, this is love... Let her react however she reacts. Let the moment be as it is. Test the moment and see how you react. To see that you are resisting is to take the first step in being okay with what is Noticing your resistance is a huge and underrated step This is where your true confidence or power is.

What are you actually looking for in a woman? Most men answer this question without thinking very deeply about it. They say something like: “I want someone attractive.” And while physical attraction obviously matters, it’s often the only thing many men consciously evaluate. Everything else gets ignored. The problem with that is simple: attraction is easy to notice, but it tells you almost nothing about the kind of person someone actually is. If you slow down and really think about it, there are far more important questions. Is she disciplined? Is she passionate about something in her life? Is she honest? Is she mature? Does she have a good sense of humor? Does she treat people with compassion and respect? Can she communicate well? Can she handle money responsibly? Does she take care of herself? Can she work through problems instead of running away from them? Does she take ownership of her life? These qualities determine whether someone will be a good partner far more than how they look. But many men never even look for these things, because their attention is captured too quickly by appearance. When that happens, the evaluation stops there. The rest of the person is almost invisible. This is why it’s useful to slow down and question your own attraction. Ask yourself what am I actually responding to right now? If the honest answer is “she’s hot,” then that’s not really liking someone... that’s just physical attraction. And those two things are very different. Liking someone means you’ve observed how they behave. You’ve seen how they treat people. You’ve seen how they handle life. It means you’ve paid attention to their character. Attraction, on the other hand, can happen instantly and tells you almost nothing. Another important piece that people often miss is presence. Presence is hard to describe, but once your mind becomes calmer, you start to notice it immediately. Presence is the feeling someone has when they are truly comfortable in themselves. They’re not trying to perform, impress, or constantly seek validation. They’re just there — grounded, aware, and engaged with what’s happening around them.

I just realized something interesting about this new approach I’ve been practicing: it’s slowly building an anti-fragile self. Before, whenever something “bad” happened — like a rejection or something not going the way my mind expected — I would spiral and beat myself up. Now it’s almost the opposite. I actually enjoy the challenge. The more I’m able to stand inside nervousness, fear, or uncertainty and still take action, the more free, playful, and excited I feel. This week for example, I spoke to about five girls. Three turned me down. One I wasn’t interested in so I ended the interaction. One led to a date… which eventually flaked. I feel great nonetheless. Because I realized the thing I’m proud of is not the outcome — it’s the fact that I showed up and acted despite the fear. I did my job. And that feels amazing. A lot of the internal pressure is gone now. There’s still some left, but the big attachments are disappearing. Talking to women I’m attracted to has become surprisingly simple: I walk up, say what I feel in the moment, and let the interaction flow. No forcing, no trying to impress, no over-controlling. Another interesting thing I noticed this week: two situations that could have easily triggered me before. One was with a Tibetan girl I had been talking to — we decided to stop speaking. The other was a girl I had successfully approached who later texted me saying she liked my approach but didn’t feel ready to meet anyone. Part of my mind briefly went: “Damn, back to square one.” But another part of me felt something completely different: Freedom. Because I realized I could go out today, see a girl I like, and talk to her without hesitation. That’s when a deeper insight about growth clicked for me. Growth isn’t linear. It’s more like climbing mountains. The peaks you experience are the result of how well you handled the valleys before them. Life gives you challenges, you integrate the lesson, and that integration shows up as a new peak.

So as you go through the courses and videos, you'll notice that sometimes you will understand what I am saying and sometimes not. In the same way that as you are out socialising, sometimes you will feel the urge to approach or not, sometimes you will be anxious, overthinking or second guessing everything. Drop judgement of yourself, do that by spotting the judgement. My aim is so simple, maybe it seems too simple, all you have to do is catch yourself overyhinking or feeling confused, catch when you are not in the present. At all times All of this is pointing towards "being" and not "doing" When you think in terms of "doing" you create a split and a separateness from "being" The mind cannot handle just "being" But I promise, that's all you need. Unless you are making practical plans then use the mind appropriately. Use it to plan stuff etc learn from mistakes. All else is "klishta" As you read this, notice where you are, how you are filtering what I'm saying. Notice the sounds around you, notice the silence the sounds come from. Your breathing is shallow or deep. Any inner tension ? Just notice it The silence and stillness is where the gold is. This is what Eckhart tolle calls " the unmanifested" Essentially it's the current on which everything emerges from, thats probably as deep as I will go on that topic but it's important to note, that's also where your "being" is coming from, ultimately it's where everything comes from, it's what is true now. Its the truth of you. Your essence. Before recent modern technological developments, and more ways to become identified with our roles in this world, we would live permanently in this state This was before anxiety and feeling like you are not worthy, not worthy of what? Its not that this essence has changed, it's that we have simply lost touch with it and now most people live from their minds, in time, Once you begin to sense this timeless dimension ( again I know how crazy that's sounds but as you become more grounded, you will have more moments where you also sense it and live through it)