I have a tendency to overshare. People say I wear my heart on my sleeve but in a way I’m being overly vulnerable as a mechanism to get people to either like or pity me. Neither is healthy but I am becoming more comfortable in being vulnerable in the right moments with the right people.

Not being present and not hearing her. I have ADHD which has its own challenges. One of the more difficult aspects is the addictive personality. In the past and sometimes the present I fill these addictions with alcohol, cannabis, sugar, my phone, and porn. More to the point of me not hearing her, we will be having a conversation and my brain will cut out, I will simply stop paying attention for no reason. Could be I get distracted by something a lot of times she tries to have conversations with me while we are listening to music or a podcast and I find this extremely difficult to focus on just her words. I’ve told her this but she believes I either need to practice more on focus or I just don’t care enough to focus on what she is saying in the moment.

Toronto, Canada married 8 years with a 16 month old. I work from home and my wife works out of an office and remotely 1 day/week

@Zach Watson we usually split duties 60:40 in favour of my wife. She usually makes our daughter breakfast while I get her changed, dressed and brush her teeth. Daughter will eat while wife is in the shower and will take her to and from daycare most of the time. I jump in when my wife needs the help. She does the drop offs because her work is 5mins from daycare which we consider ourselves incredibly fortunate to have because the waitlists are years long. No joke, you have to apply to daycare before your child is born to have a chance at a spot. On the weekends we generally split time with her. Most nights I meal prep and get dinner started. After dinner wife baths daughter and gets her ready for bed while I clean the kitchen. I put my daughter to bed which sometimes takes over an hour then finish cleaning the kitchen after she finally falls asleep. Lather, rinse, repeat.