Hey loves, A few of you don't know much about me other than my TT videos so I thought it's worth putting a few key parts of my story here. Past, present and future. I grew up in North London to an emotionally abusive mother (narcissistic but i didn't know any of that language until a few years ago when i retrained) and a violent, alcoholic father (sociopath i think). I was a sensitive child, and that kind of trauma really affected me. Throughout my life i've suffered from abandonment, homelessness, eating disorders, addiction, codependency, burn out, toxic relationships, going no contact with family and more. Identified as spiritual and witchy but felt out of control and not able to direct my life. I also had a overall happy marriage of 17 years (but i was very unhealed, it wasn't healthy but there was love and good intentions for a happy life and future), bought a house, a 25 year career in creative comms becoming a global business director in luxury advertising, got divorced, sold my house, travelled, had codependent friendships, lost friends. All the things. It's been a rollercoaster. A cat mum throughout. After the end of my 17 year relationship / marriage, i got into a 2.5 year abusive situationship with a covert narc, suffered addiction, burnout, hitting rock bottom, stalking, harassment, CPTSD, debt, living on my own for the first time and much more I prayed, harder than id ever prayed and surrendered to a higher power. The next few years were a spiritual awakening, healing codependency, becoming a reiki practitioner and energy healer, going clean and sober, studying Raja Yoga, walking the path of enlightenment, CPD/CCE fully certified Somatic Trauma informed coaching training with Caroline Strawsons Mental Wellbeing company, becoming a Mental Wellbeing practitioner, trained to be a Narcissistic abuse recovery specialist, a Positive Psychology practitioner, hypnotherapist, speaker, trainer, brand partner of the Mental Wellbeing company bringing trauma informed workshops to corporates, and places of education and a spiritual guide.

It's really important we understand a red flag from a green flag in relationships, and can help others spot unhealthy patterns before they start. Here is a check to share with those who might need it esp young people, it's part of my Trauma Informed Red Flags for Teens relationship workshop. Relationship Red & Green Flag Checklist 🚩 Red Flags (Check what feels familiar) - ⬜ Intense attention, gifts, or declarations very early (love-bombing) - ⬜ Jealousy or discomfort when you spend time with others - ⬜ Guilt, pressure, or emotional withdrawal when you say “no” - ⬜ Requests to check your phone, messages, or whereabouts - ⬜ Public jokes or criticism followed by “I was only joking” - ⬜ Monitoring or reacting strongly to your online activity - ⬜ Sudden silence, ghosting, or disappearing without explanation - ⬜ Sharing private or embarrassing information to control or shame - ⬜ You feel anxious, hypervigilant, confused, or like you’re “too much” - ⬜ Your nervous system feels activated rather than calm ✅ Green Flags (Check what supports safety) - ⬜ Your boundaries are respected without pressure or punishment - ⬜ You’re encouraged to have friendships and interests outside the relationship - ⬜ Communication is open, honest, and emotionally safe - ⬜ Your privacy is respected — no checking or surveillance - ⬜ Accountability is taken and apologies are genuine - ⬜ Conflict is handled calmly, without silent treatment or control - ⬜ You’re spoken about kindly in public and private - ⬜ Communication is consistent and reliable - ⬜ You feel grounded, calmer, and more regulated around them - ⬜ You feel more like yourself, not less 🌿 Trauma-Informed Reminder Healthy love feels safe, consistent, steady, not confusing. If you know of parents groups, schools, colleges or other spaces where this workshop would serve please let me know, im building an outreach list for 2026. Tx

Tomorrow is what i call self care Sunday. Im really intentional about nourishing me time. Movement, ritual, meditation, journaling, self development and time in nature. What are your self care tips, habits and rituals? Il share some of mine tomorrow as they come up. Tx

Skool has cracked me open a bit. Ive been avoiding and fighting it a bit, wary, curious, and excited but then not fully trusting of it due to my Mother Wound. I have an narcissistic abusive mother. We have been no contact for a very long time. Its taken me this whole lifetime (im 44 now) to heal, and it was the deepest hardest wound. Even harder than the intensive violence from my psycho father. I therefore have always had a couple of close women friends, but not kept them going. I relate better with men. Ive been working in Advertising for 25 years which is male dominated. I can be comfortable in my masculine energy. Ive had some support from women in my life, in my career and im grateful to them. And ive been betrayed. Felt jealously from them.Seen many toxic women that hate themselves and other women and its really put me off. So women used to slightly scare me. I didn't fully trust them. I feel shame around them. Like im not good enough. Or theyre judging me. Or I dont quite relate. Connecting with the amazing women on here including @Serena DAfree @Ann Tonie @Helen Sandwick and many more has cracked me open. They are such amazing, intelligent, soul aligned, gifted, loving women who are supporting me and backing me and its honestly broken through a little barrier I didn't realise i still had. So thank you, really from the bottom of my heart. We all keep doing our work, we're never 'fully healed'; its not linear its a journey and theres always more layers to uncover. I came here to support and inspire others, I never once expected it back. Thats my bad because the love and support and community and connection is here. Gratitude Tx

Its not your job to be performative to get people to like you. Its just to be authentically you. Be honest. Have boundaries. Be ok with the tension. https://youtu.be/SSRcZHA0L0Q?si=5BEKtdOxp93Xrdhc