Q for Men who are shared by multiple women..
(I tried to condense this with chatgpt but it failed to include full context; apologies in advance for the length) I have a female partner of 3 years. We have an unconventional dynamic. It’s very healthy: we keep honest and transparency at the top of priorities, and we’re very effective communicators. She identifies as pan sexual yet has never been in a relationship with another woman. I’m a heterosexual male. In a nutshell: she claims I fulfill her to where she needs nothing from another man, and she also understands that, as an Exemplary Man, I have an appetite and am aware of it. She is understanding and open to me having my “cake and eat it to” so to speak. In this regard I am very blessed to have such a loyal and beautiful partner. She’s truly the woman of my dreams. Here is the dilemma: She always talks about wanting to bring in a third, or share me with another woman, yet in 3 years she hasn’t brought one female around that would be a considered a “prospect” for a lack of better word (I’m a salesman and use sales terminology often). Conversely, I’ve introduced her to multiple women and we’ve had a threesome in 2020 and a foursome in 2022 (3 girls if it must be clear). In other words, I initiated those arrangements, and the foursome, it was the first time they all met each other (I was looking like Michael Sartain w girls around me that night 😝). Anyways, it’s becoming “old” hearing her “talk but not walk” when it comes to networking, meeting new women (to identify if it’s a platonic opportunity, or a prospect opportunity), and overall taking the initiative to create more opportunities. It doesn’t help that she is inactive on social media, and is more of a consumer than a creator. When this topic gets brought up it typically turns to me getting frustrated or dismissal because to me she’s “all talk” and no game, when it comes to HER bringing in new women to get to know. I’d rather have sex with her and another for, rather than another girl solely, and expressed this to her today. She appreciated the sentiment, and I thought to try a different approach today, by asking if she would consider a trainer or a teacher, any resource that may provide her with tools, or confidence, or perspective that she can use to cultivate her desire of “pulling” women for us to meet.