Y’all, my friend Joel just offered something really cool for The Daily Sigh community. Joel has spent two decades as an entrepreneur, building, buying, and selling businesses. After all of that, one of his biggest takeaways is painfully simple: A lot of business problems are personal problems wearing a fake mustache. Lack of focus. Lack of discipline. Poor health. Strained relationships. Inconsistent execution. Avoidance. Procrastination. The quiet little self-sabotage gremlins we all pretend are “strategy issues.” Most entrepreneurs obsess over the business while neglecting the person driving the machine. Joel is launching his Next Level Man 31-Day Challenge, and he’s offered 5 full scholarships to members of 3XF. The scholarship includes: • Full enrollment in the 31-day program • A copy of the book • Access to the private WhatsApp community • Weekly Zoom calls • Daily challenges focused on discipline, health, relationships, finances, leadership, and personal growth This isn’t a “get inspired and then go back to being the same person” thing. It’s 31 days of action, accountability, commitment, and doing the work. The first 5 members who reach out will get access at no cost. If this feels like something you need, don’t overthink it. You can see the program here: http://www.31dailychallenges.com/ Reach out to Joel if you're interested: joelgandara@gmail.com (please be respectful of his time and this generous offer).

If you’ve ever wondered: ‘Why do I feel most alone in rooms full of people who supposedly "get it"?’ you might relate to this. Before I found my grounding in my life, I felt completely unanchored. The identities I had taken on and tried to live up to: “good” daughter, mother, wife, minister, member of society… I was not good at performing according to any expectations, external or internal. I genuinely believed I was an all-around failure, and that the gaping hole of missing deep connection in my life was entirely what I ‘deserved’. Fast forward to today, and the same ‘evidence’ is processed very differently in my perspective. Instead of seeing missed connections as proof of my inadequacies, I see them as opportunities to form more pearls: wisdom acquired only through challenging lived experience. In Human Design, this is the gift of the 3/5 - to embrace the living of it, and then to honor the wisdom gained by faithfully delivering the lessons learned, the pearls, in such a practical way that others may benefit. With the helpful pattern recognition AI contributes, the articulation of pearls collapses from months and years into hours and days. I’m no longer calibrating to an old, irrelevant story that looks like connection on the surface, but holds no genuine depth underneath.

“Ok Deborah, you’ve been mighty loud about how monetization is the wrong goal. What’s YOUR relationship with ‘making’ money?” Thank you for asking the loaded question. Money is a beautiful, valuable tool, like a fork or a spoon. To me, money flow is like emotional flow. Waves, sometimes high, sometimes receded. Both the waves themselves and the range of their size is always welcome, accepted as natural. I was raised in a home where money was generated when needed, but it wasn’t constant in its levels. So I guess I’ve adopted a similar practice with money. Always in gratitude. My gratitude practice includes, among other things, re-gifting 10 cents of every dollar I receive. The *very loose* categories for this regifting practice are: 💛 Someone who is genuinely in need 💛 Spiritual teachers 💛 Regenerative / holistic practitioners putting something aligned out into the world In my relationship with sufficiency, I get to experience: 🙏🏾 deep gratitude for every dollar I receive 😌 the fulfillment that comes from being able to be generous 🤩 the delight that comes from knowing this can be a blessing to fellow kin in need 🧐 the razor sharp clarity of decision making that comes from saving to be generous I’ll tell you one thing, though. I’ve observed from past experience that when I am overabundant in finances, those frequencies of gratitude, fulfillment, delight and clarity diminish. Similar to having only one sweater hand knit by a beloved aunt, versus having 20 fast fashion sweaters. They don’t feel the same. In my experience, when interactions involving money are infused with gratitude, delight, clarity and meaning, the difference is night and day from cold, extractive, ‘business as usual’ transactions.

Hey everyone!👋 Time to look back at the week and see where we made progress. Whether you moved a big project forward or finally cleared your inbox, feel free to share it here. I will be reading through the posts today. What was your win this week?

Hey everyone 👋 It is the last Friday of March! Let’s close the month strong. What did you move forward this week? Whether it’s a big revenue win or finally solving a workflow headache, I want to hear about it. I’ll be reading through them. Drop your gains below 👇