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If things don’t start calming down, I’m going to have a nervous breakdown. I don’t know where a safe place to start is.

Have you ever found yourself replaying conversations in your head, wondering what you could have said differently to bring your child closer to you? Perhaps you’ve written messages, apologised, or tried everything you can think of, hoping something will finally change. I want you to understand something important. You cannot control another person’s choices, but you can take back control of your own life. When someone you love becomes distant, it’s natural to search for answers. You want to understand why, and you want to find a way to put things right. But constantly trying to change something outside your control can leave you emotionally exhausted, putting your own happiness on hold while you wait. Taking personal responsibility doesn’t mean accepting blame for someone else’s actions. It means recognising that, even in the most painful circumstances, you still have choices. You can choose how you respond. You can protect your emotional well-being. You can begin rebuilding a life that brings you meaning and happiness, even while you miss the person you love. And you can still hold hope for reconciliation without making your entire life depend on it. So, the next time you find yourself asking, “How can I make them change?”, try asking yourself a different question: “What can I do today to take care of myself?” Because your life matters, too. And you deserve to live it, even while your heart is waiting.

Hello, and thank you for this space. I am a widow, married 23 years, and I was the co-dependant and my husband was an addict. We loved eachother very much but dysfunction weaved throughout our marriage and our family. We have four adult children and one grandson. My husband past away April 18, 2017 and his battle with addiction ended his life that day. Due to financial struggles I picked up and moved with my youngest who was 11 at the time to another state. I was estranged from my second son by choice shortly after I left. I will share at a later time why. I had a good relationship with my oldest son and daughter at this point. Two years later, my oldest daughter disconnected with me out of nowhere. Then a few years later my oldest son did also and I havent seen my grandson in about 3 years. There is a lot of substance to this story. I am never claiming to have done it all right nor denying a dysfunctional upbringing because of the addiction and co dependency. But I loved my children, I gave my all and then some and I have not tried to escape listening, understanding, my responsibility in the family dynamic or shifted blame or accountability. But I have been hurt and I have been healing and doing the work. But the losses and emptiness have taken a toll on my heart many times. And some days are so much harder. And the thoughts sometimes eat at you from within. The rejection, the things you miss out on and the shattered expectations and ideas of what I envisioned for my family are hard pills to swallow. So I just seek wisdom, connection and understanding in my weak moments with people who get it and have tools in the toolbox Im still looking for. Thank you for letting me share.

After 30 years of practicing law, I thought there has to be a better way. We created Joze. A safe, private way to find common ground and a path forward. If you and your partner are stuck and want to try it, I sm offering this group a complimentary session. For a deeper dive, please email me at: Mark@joze.ai. Happy Resolutions.