You Can Forgive Yourself Now · The Healing Circle

You Can Forgive Yourself Now

Let’s be real for a second…

You did the best you could with what you knew back then.

You’re a student of Earth..not a master. No matter how old you get, that truth never changes.

Somewhere along the way, the “adult” programming convinced us we’re supposed to have it all figured out. But the truth is… we’re all still children of this planet… learning, stumbling, growing, remembering.

It’s not about what you did. It’s about what you know now and how you choose to use that wisdom to keep evolving into the highest version of yourself.

And I’ll be the first to tell you that holding onto guilt isn’t strength… it’s self-punishment disguised as “accountability.”

Neuroscience shows that shame literally shuts down the prefrontal cortex.. the part of your brain responsible for growth, focus, and decision-making.

In other words … The longer you stay stuck in guilt, the harder it is to change.

It’s time to release that old weight and start living again.

Here are 5 simple, proven steps to start forgiving yourself today

1️⃣ Acknowledge, Not Avoid

Write down the exact moment or pattern you still carry shame around.

Bringing it into the light turns pain into data. You can’t heal what you keep hiding.

2️⃣ Reframe the Story

Ask yourself: “What was I truly needing or trying to protect back then?”

You’ll often find a scared part of you that simply wanted love, safety, or approval.

3️⃣ Activate Self-Compassion

Science shows self-compassion releases oxytocin and serotonin, calming your nervous system and creating emotional safety.. the foundation of real change.

4️⃣ Make Repair (Where Needed)

If someone was affected, own your part.. no guilt trips, no explanations.

Just truth and humility. That energy alone restores integrity.

5️⃣ Anchor the Lesson

Close your eyes and repeat:

“I forgive myself for not knowing what I didn’t know.

And I choose to live from what I know now.”

Say it until your body believes it. Because that’s when the past finally loses its grip.

What’s one thing you’re finally ready to forgive yourself for starting today?

Drop it in the comments 👇 so we can witness and celebrate that release together.

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