Mar 23 • PDA Parenting 👩❤️👨👩🍼
Pathological Demand Avoidance - Autism
PDA isn’t about “won’t”… it’s about “can’t right now.”
One of the biggest shifts is realising this isn’t defiance in the way people think. 🧠
It’s not that “They’re choosing not to listen”, “They’re being difficult”
Or “They just need firmer boundaries”
It’s “I feel too overwhelmed to access what you’re asking”
“My nervous system is in protection mode”
“I need safety before I can cooperate”
And the tricky part? 🧩
It can look like control, avoidance, arguing, or pushing back — especially in moments where, on the surface, the demand seems small.
But for a PDA nervous system, even everyday things can feel like a loss of autonomy.
So instead of asking: “How do I make them do it?”
We start asking: “How do I reduce the pressure enough so they can?”
That’s where things begin to shift. 💕
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Pathological Demand Avoidance - Autism
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