Context not me . My dad proposed OMG hehe. Such a beautiful ring and a beautiful night . I'm so excited to start this family and be apart of her life. I'm so excited to blend our family together ehhh.

Love the 4 questions Listening ear Sounding board Problem solve Space Just ask worst they can say is no

As many of you know I’ve been traveling for the greater part of 40 days and now that I am “back” the amount of stress, pressure, anxiety, and “oh no” that has flooded my mind is quite jarring. I want to take this as an opportunity to let you all know that no matter where you are on your journey, stuff is going to come up. You can have it all “figured out” and then life is going to toss some curveballs or some old habits or memories pop up out of nowhere and you’re like “wait! I thought this was over?!” Nope. We don’t lose them - We grow WITH them. So, what am I doing? 1. Accepting these thoughts and feelings. I’m not judging them or criticizing them. I’m allowing them in because they are part of me. It doesn’t make them right or wrong, it makes them mine. 2. Not every thought or feeling is fact. We’ve all had our fair share of not so great thoughts that we know are not actually objective facts aka “I suck”, “I’ll never figure it out”, or even the worse things that I’m not going to mention. They are not facts whatsoever. Rather than taking any of this fabricated pressure as fact, I am accepting the thoughts and feelings and looking at them as if they are clouds passing in the sky. Then I let them pass by. 3. I’m going to enjoy my day. I get cut off in traffic? I’m sure they had somewhere to be faster than I do. I spill coffee? Good thing I am in a place where I can make more. I have a disagreement with someone and get my feelings hurt? I take a breath. Pause. And seek clarity rather than responding immediately. I’m sure they meant something positive and not what my knee jerk reaction felt. You need to learn how to set boundaries with yourself. You say you’re going to workout? You keep your promise and workout. You say you’re going to be kinder to yourself? You keep your promise and begin taking steps toward being kinder to yourself. You say you’re going to get off your phone? You keep your promise and get off your phone. Keeping promises to yourself (and having boundaries with yourself and with others) is one of the greatest acts of self love and self care you can build.

After the tough love advise you said on your live I could not sleep. It sad a person online is more blunt and honest with me than people I have known for years. I some times wonder if people have selfish motives when giving advise (not you Tyler). You were right …I was scared. Which made me look for the smallest reason to break it off before he had any chance to hurt me. So I sat up til like 2am. Restless writing and thinking pro and cons why I was scared , good and bad, what I have to lose and what I could gain. Talk about overthinking everything . 230 this morning I pick up my phone and called not thinking this man could be sleeping and has to work in few hours . He answered and asked what was wrong voice. Lol. We talked til he had to go to work. We are still meeting on Friday. Thank you Tyler for the tough love advice.

How do we offer support to those around us? Sometimes people are venting and then we problem solve for them (when they didn't ask for it). Sometimes people are looking for problem solving and we just give them space (again when they didn't ask for it). So, 1) how do we offer support to those around us? and 2) how do we let others know the support we are looking for? Here's a method I developed that allowed me to actually offer help in a productive way (and also how to express the needs I had myself when I went to others with my 'things'). The video below gives a breakdown of how to offer support to someone in need in the forms of: - A listening ear - A sounding board - Problem solving - Space Or said another way that I've used A LOT in my TikTok LIVEs Are you looking for... - Support - Encouragement - Validation - Advice What do you all think of this method? Does it resonate? Have you tried it out? Let me know what you think is your go-to way of NEEDING help and your go-to way of OFFERING help!