I had an interview today. It went well. I will probably like the job and do well at it. But when my boyfriend asked how it went, I burst into tears. Why? Because I had a realization that I most likely won’t be able to stay home with my kids when they eventually come along. I was raised by a single mother and taught how to be a super parent and an ace in corporate America. That’s what I was trained for: to do it all. It never occurred to me that I would want to stay home with babies or that I would feel such grief at the loss of an opportunity I didn’t know I wanted. When I tried to explain this sensation to my boyfriend, he gently explained that what I was saying was insane since we don’t even have kids yet and I was thinking too far down the road. Maybe that is true. But I don’t think I’m the only woman to feel this way and even if I am, I believe that I’m allowed to be sad about it. Despite the fact that I need the job and I’ll do the job and I’ll probably be really good at it- I’m allowed to grateful for that opportunity and sad at the same time for a door closing. Just thought I’d share in case anyone can relate.

Today we talked about the emotions that come up for us when we think of Father’s Day….If it gets complicated for you, we want you to know that you are not alone. Grief is a big complication. Sometimes it is enough to share your feelings and have it witnessed. Feel free to post or send a private message if you need/want to share.

This business conference has been exactly what I needed.When left to my own devices, here are snippets of my joyful moments. It is the moments that matter most…..

I heard something that said “let’s try to be 1% better today than we were yesterday”. In the context it was said, it was about being loving. I like that idea for several reasons. - It’s reasonable, not an impossible standard. - It can apply to anything- health, relationships, finances, etc. - It puts you back in control of the situation instead of focusing on what we can’t control. My question is this: Think of one thing that is important to you. Can you strive to be 1% better today than you were yesterday? What would you like to be 1% better at?