I’ve been doing it since September 2025. Lost my virginity in November, got a few f buddies since then and I have a beautiful and sweet gf right now. I created this by being consistent with the meditations and taking outer action. I feel more free, in my power when talking to people, and like I can handle anything that comes my way. I’m Winning.

This is a gift straight from the Undoing.U Legends course — one of the most powerful daily exercises we teach inside the program. Guys who actually commit to this journal consistently report breakthroughs they didn't think were possible. Not because it's complicated, but because it rewires the relationship between your mind and your nervous system one entry at a time. If you do nothing else from this community, do this. Most guys either play it too safe and wonder why nothing changes, or they go full send into situations that completely overwhelm them — then beat themselves up when they shut down. There's a sweet spot. And this journal is how you find it and ride it every single day. How it works: Step 1 — Pick something that scares you a little. Something you'd normally avoid. Rate it between 3 and 7 on an imaginary tension scale. Why that range? Below a 3, there's not enough challenge — you won't grow. Above a 7, your nervous system fries and you shut down. Think of it like a massage. Too light and it's pointless. Too deep and your body braces to protect itself. The sweet spot is where you can actually receive it. Or think of water through a hose — not enough pressure and it trickles. Too much and the hose bursts. Perfect tension? The water flows smooth, powerful, and exactly where you want it. That 3-7 zone is where flow states live. Athletes know this. Surfers know this. Great speakers know this. Now you're going to train it deliberately. Step 2 — Write it down BEFORE you do it. Note three things: what you're about to do, the emotion coming up (fear, anxiety, nervousness), and your predicted tension level. Example: "That girl in the red dress looks intimidating. I feel like I'm going to get rejected. Predicted tension: 7/10." Step 3 — Do the thing. Squeeze your core, ground through your legs, and go. Make the decision with your body, not your head. Don't change your mind halfway through. Here's the key — practice relaxing INTO the tension as you do it. You're not white-knuckling through it with rigid determination. You're engaging while staying loose. Stepping into the fear while breathing. Tension plus relaxation equals flow.

Why does this keep happening to me even on the dates that I think went well? Why can’t I go past first or second dates? Am I being compared to other men in the venues or in their lives and I’m not good enough? If I really was that great or fun wouldn’t they want to see me again?

If you have not yet tried the Self Esteem Meditation now is the time to rat on yourself and get moving!