She decided how she felt about you before you finished your first word. Not because of your face. Not because of your job. Because of about four one-percent adjustments in your body. Here's what those adjustments look like: - Chin lifts slightly - Energy pulls up out of the chest and into the head - Shoulder rotates a few degrees away - Hand tucks back - Stomach tenses None of it is visible if you're filming it. All of it is felt if you're standing in front of it. What she registers is simple: this guy's energy is moving away from me while his body moves toward me. That mismatch is what reads as weird. It's not that you're too short or too quiet. It's that you're arriving and leaving at the same time. Now the fix, which is equally small: Relax the front of your body. Let the hand hang. Drop the energy out of the head and into the chest and legs. Then find one thing about her you can be curious about, or appreciate, or just enjoy — and relax into that. Same words. Same guy. Completely different transmission. Comment with what you notice: next time you walk up to anyone this week — barista, colleague, stranger — check whether your energy is going toward them or away from them. Report back.