So it’s that weird mid-day, after-Christmasing limbo. I’m doing a lot of not muchness. Sat here. Quiet day, recharge, I had my 3rd Xmas dinner for breakfast, yes addicted to veggies, so any excuse…. But my brain is doing its usual tick tick tick thing, thinking, reflecting, connecting dots whether I ask it to or not. (DUH. Hello. Obvs it is.) And if I had to sum up the last 12 months in one phrase, it would be this…. MESSY GROWTH. Not neat and tidy growth. Not Instagram-wow that's pretty caption growth. Not “tie a cute af bow on it and call it perfect” growth. Messy. Human. Sometimes a-lotta uncomfortable. Sometimes badass and brilliant. Sometimes I’m like WOOP, sometimes I’m like… what the actual tofu is happening here. Anyways this is what I actually mean by messy growth… (if y’all are tilting your head like go on Mimi, spill the juice) ME, AS A HUMAN ( THIS TOTES COMES FIRST) I’ve grown in self-belief. BIG TIME. I’ve grown in determination. In boundaries. In resilience. And that didn’t come from things being easy nope it came from showing up when it would have been easier to duck the ef out, numb out, or tell myself a story about why tomorrow would be better. I had my fair share of wobbles. Anxiety pfffttt. Grief. Emotional stuff bubbling up that I couldn’t bypass even if I wanted to. But I stayed in it. I didn’t pretend it wasn’t there, and I didn’t let it take the wheel either. (Some days it tried. HARD.) (and if you are in The Backroom, we say it ALOT - Weebles wobble but they don’t fall down) THE BUSINESS BIT (THE UNGLAMOROUS TRUTH, MY GIDDY AUNT) This has been my bestest year since I shifted niches just over two years ago. And I know not everyone’s had a great year. I’ve had some poop moments myself in the past. So please know this is just my perspective, not a rule, not a lecture, not a “do-this-or-else” vibe, hey we are humans after alll… BUT I worked really bloody hard, and I mean hard hard…

Anybody else start doing a bit of deep reflecting at this time of year? Because I definitely do BIG TIME, and this year especially feels like one of those years where patterns, lessons, and little “ooooffff got it now” moments have been stacking up quietly in the background. And I wanted to share something I’m genuinely proud of, not because it’s flashy or impressive, but because it would have been VERY easy to do the opposite. (OBVS I questioned myself. Multiple times, and some, oh hello, thereby cheeky mind) First up,I wanna be totes clear before I go any further, THIS IS NOT “THE only WAY”. It’s just the way I did it. There are a million right ways to build things, and pivoting is defo not a failure. Sometimes, pivoting is exactly what’s needed. This just happens to be one thing I didn’t pivot on, and I’m very proud of that. Back in November 2024, I started my Skool Community, what is now called the Backroom. It wasn’t called that at the time; it was called Unstoppables, and TBH, the reason it existed at all was that my Facebook group literally vanished. Gone. Puffed away. No warning, no recovery, no support. It sucked alot at the time… If you know, you know. And that moment really landed for me because it showed me just how fragile some things actually are, even when we treat them like they’re stable. We all know the story hey So I made a decision. I didn’t want to build something again that could just disappear just like that overnight, completely out of my control, pffffttt So, I’d already been spending time inside other Skool communities, learning, observing, seeing how they worked, and I thought… ok, now’s the time, let's give this a bash But I didn’t do it in the obvious way. I decided to make it a $1 community. And not because I thought it would make money, it absolutely wasn’t a money play. That part matters. This was about energy. Intention. Boundaries. Keeping trolls out, spam out, and people dropping in with zero intention of actually being there.

(and no, it’s not “alignment”, “abundance”, or any of that pffftttt) So this one action, this one decision, pretty much changed the entire trajectory of my life, and the word was RESPONSIBILITY. Stay with me because this is huge, genuinely life-changing huge. I didn’t used to take RESPONSIBILITY, not properly anyway, and I’m sure there are still moments where I don’t because I’m human, but the more I understood what taking responsibility actually meant, the easier everything became. Let’s say someone pisses you off, hurts you, triggers you, says some mean shit that lands in your chest like a BRICK. Yes it sucks, yes it hurts, of course it does because you’re human, not a bloody robot, but the moment I realised I can only take responsibility for what I can CONTROL, everything shifted. If someone upsets me, I get to choose what happens next. I can hold on to it, let it fester, let it drain me, let it hijack my nervous system, replay it like a bad Netflix series, or I can move it, process it, shift it, respond differently. Because that part is on me. Same in business. If I’m not where I want to be, I could blame the algorithm, the funnel, the strategy, the timing, the moon, the neighbours drilling, the neighbors dog, fluffy Nami, literally anything, but none of that gets me anywhere. At some point I had to eat the truth sandwich and accept that only I can change what isn’t working, only I can beat my own excuses, only I can step through the fear, only I can build the MOMENTUM. I used to spend SO much time pointing fingers outside myself, it’s easy, it’s comforting, it keeps you safe, but the truth is I’m responsible for how I act, I’m responsible for how I respond, I’m responsible for how I move through something, I’m responsible for the next step even when the last one felt shit. Even when I’m not moving, it’s still my job to look at myself and go, “What part of this is mine to fix, shift, or OWN?” And this is the piece most people avoid, this is the gulp bomb, because most people love the idea of being empowered, but they don’t actually want responsibility.

I had quite the mix of humans in my comments this week. Most people actually read the post, felt it, resonated, laughed, tagged me, DM’d me, and said things like: “THIS made me smile.” “You read my mind.” “I LOVE the raw, real vibe we learn in MYM.” “I’m signing up now — send the link!” “Love how you say it, how you are, how you feel.” People literally dropped MAGNETIC and joined the membership on the spot. They asked for the offer. They felt seen. Those are my people. The ones who get the depth AND the humour. (coz I'm funny teehee) The ones who want truth, connection, and messaging that actually sounds human, well because I am hello,duh, obvs And then… there were the others... One bloke skimmed half a sentence, told me to “get a real job,” suggested I go rescue abused dogs and children (??), and confidently decided he knew my entire character after roughly three seconds of not reading, pfffffttt - ok tom go read here Another jumped in with, “What a rubbish post is that?” — honestly iconic af. Imagine hitting send on that and thinking you’ve done something. Cool story bro… Here’s what’s funny to me Old me would’ve spiralled, dwelled on it for days Current me? I’m good. Truly. Because this is what polarising content does It pulls in the humans I’m here for and it pushes out the ones I’m not. And I’m more than okay with that. Rude, reactive, closed-minded humans aren’t my audience. Never were. Never will be. If someone has the time to write an essay telling a stranger on the internet to “get a real job”… that’s not a lead. That’s a walking crack on, see you bye. My energy goes to the humans who read, feel, connect, DM, join, and grow with me, not the ones who announce themselves on the way out. Mwah x x x

They choose you because they feel like your people. Tribe first → Technique second. Safety first → Strategy later. Resonance first → Instructions when they're ready. Connection first → Commitment naturally follows. This isn’t mindset fluff. This is straight-up HUMAN BIOLOGY. Nervous system. “Do I feel safe with you?” 101. If you don't get the human bit right, the rest is just fancy noise. The Connection Reset starts 1st Dec. Only humans welcome. Link in comments.