Join us this Wednesday from 1 -2 pm EST as we talk about Paralysis Analysis and how this phenomenon keeps men stuck while healing from infidelity. It will be hosted right here through the calendar. See you then!

D day for me is 5 months ago, and in the days after I was a mess. Completely alone with my daughters leaving for college with the woman I loved and who I thought loved me. Until I found out she had an affair and spent 20k on credit cards. We had a happy marriage. My wife confirmed this a day or two after D day. None of this made sense, so I tried to make sense of it all. Affair books, Chat GPT, podcasts, MC, and The Forge. Recently Paul and I spoke about the difference between reconciliation and forgiveness. Forgiveness is FOR ME, and will allow me to put aside all of my anger and confusion and take a step back from the confusion. As I recently told another guy in the group, “she broke it, she bought it”. So as I work on forgiveness, I sit back and wait to see if reconciliation is even an option. That ball is mostly in her court. It’s a work in progress, but it gives me something to work towards for myself, not for her, and not for our relationship. When I was trying to fix everything, I would mostly end up frustrated and resentful.

I know holidays can bring even more stress and anxiety in the midst of navigating infidelity. You have permission to do what you need to feel peace. It’s not selfish, it’s self care. Set boundaries, leave the room, take a walk, whatever you need to reset and ground yourself. You are not alone. Reach out if you need help. Paul

I have uploaded a lesson I think will be beneficial to you all as we enter the holiday season. Check out the Surviving the Holidays lesson under Classroom/Free Resources/Video lessons

Brothers, we are meeting today at 1 pm for a special live session on one of the hardest questions men face after betrayal: How do you know when it is time to walk away? If you are feeling stuck, confused, exhausted, or unsure of what your next step should be, this session is for you. We will slow everything down and look at this question from a place of clarity instead of fear. We will cover: - How to evaluate this decision without rushing or reacting - The difference between emotional clarity and crisis thinking - How to look honestly at your wife’s actions and patterns - What staying or leaving means for your long term stability - How to process the kid factor and the fear of losing time - A simple framework you can use to get real clarity This session is not about pushing you to stay or pushing you to leave. It is about helping you see the full picture so you can move toward the healthiest version of yourself. Join us at 1 pm. Everyone is welcome. Join through the calendar tab and click today’s event. If you plan to be there, drop a comment so we know who is joining.