I know holidays can bring even more stress and anxiety in the midst of navigating infidelity. You have permission to do what you need to feel peace. It’s not selfish, it’s self care. Set boundaries, leave the room, take a walk, whatever you need to reset and ground yourself. You are not alone. Reach out if you need help. Paul

I have uploaded a lesson I think will be beneficial to you all as we enter the holiday season. Check out the Surviving the Holidays lesson under Classroom/Free Resources/Video lessons

Brothers, we are meeting today at 1 pm for a special live session on one of the hardest questions men face after betrayal: How do you know when it is time to walk away? If you are feeling stuck, confused, exhausted, or unsure of what your next step should be, this session is for you. We will slow everything down and look at this question from a place of clarity instead of fear. We will cover: - How to evaluate this decision without rushing or reacting - The difference between emotional clarity and crisis thinking - How to look honestly at your wife’s actions and patterns - What staying or leaving means for your long term stability - How to process the kid factor and the fear of losing time - A simple framework you can use to get real clarity This session is not about pushing you to stay or pushing you to leave. It is about helping you see the full picture so you can move toward the healthiest version of yourself. Join us at 1 pm. Everyone is welcome. Join through the calendar tab and click today’s event. If you plan to be there, drop a comment so we know who is joining.

Good evening everyone. I just wanted to take some time out of my day to contribute something to this community and figured I’d share something that helped me with my overall personal experience. Your real help starts here, with this community and with your coaching. You can’t skimp out on the resources here. I do want to add something for you all to be able to listen to. This has more to do with self. It’s an interesting interview that brings up the hardships men (and young boys) face in general. We often ignore the challenges we face. Outside of infidelity, this interview expresses what we as men often deny ourselves of. Give it a listen and see if you can relate. Let this bring you some peace that you aren’t alone. https://youtu.be/0LM4-TqhiaA?si=YRfRniwk76CTSZ_D

Brothers, one of the most common battles men face after infidelity is the hunger for every detail. You want to know what happened, when it happened, why it happened, and what she was thinking at every step. You are not strange or obsessive for feeling this way. This is what the mind does when trust collapses. It tries to rebuild a shattered world by gathering every missing piece it can find. It makes sense. If you can understand the whole truth, maybe the pain will settle. If you can see the full picture, maybe your brain will finally stop spinning. But there is another side to this that most men never realize until they are already drowning in it. Some answers bring clarity. Some answers only create deeper wounds. Your mind is craving enough information to make sense of your reality, but the danger is going so far that you start creating a vivid movie in your head that you cannot unsee. You want enough info to understand, but not so much you can create a vivid movie. That line matters more than most men think. Helpful clarity looks like this: • Understanding the timeline • Knowing whether the affair is actually over • Knowing if she is willing to be accountable and transparent • Understanding the real issues that existed before the betrayal • Knowing what safety and boundaries will look like going forward • Understanding her willingness to do the work required to rebuild These answers help you make decisions. They help you protect yourself. They help you figure out whether reconciliation is even possible. Self torture looks like this: • Demanding graphic details that only fuel intrusive images • Repeating the same questions trying to soothe a pain that facts cannot soothe • Asking questions she cannot answer in a way that will satisfy you • Trying to understand emotions she may not fully understand herself • Searching for reasons that will magically erase the pain • Asking about moments that change nothing about your future These questions do not bring peace. They keep you stuck. They turn your mind into a projector that plays scenes you never needed to see.