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Busting the "50/50" Myth
Ever heard people say things like "Marriage should be 50/50"? Even split - right down the middle?
I can tell you that 50/50 has RARELY existed in my marriage.
I loved how Brene Brown unpacked it, drawing from her own marriage, and this really landed with me.
She talked about how she and her husband identify the "out of 50 - where are you at today" when they'd get home. (In terms of patience, kindness, energy etc). He would say "I'm at a 20 today" and she would say "no worries! I'll cover for you. I can bring the 80".
Other times when times were especially tough - and they'd both be in the 20's/30's re energy, patience, kindness - they'd negotiate what each other needs.
She added that "A marriage is not 50/50. A partnership works when they can carry your "20" or you can carry theirs. And when you are both at a 20 - you have a plan on how to navigate that."
This perspective lifted the pressure I'd put on myself to be at "100" because that's what we're supposed to be right? Nope.
Let me know if this post busted a myth for you too, or if you have a different view? 👇
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Busting the "50/50" Myth
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