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Victoria Lindsay

13d • ✍️ Homework

HW Day 1:

Struggles

4 struggles:

As a new mom an honest fear of mine as I entered this chapter has been losing my identity.

After building a very strong sense of self, career, and independence, I feared how much my life and body would change.

I have always been confident and very self aware.

At one point in my life, the thought of losing my individuality and freedom made me sadly not want kids. Losing my mother 12 years ago also made me not want children.

Navigating this transition into motherhood while still feeling connected to myself is something I will learn to navigate moving forward.

At my core I have always held high expectations of myself. I am a high intensity person and I don’t stop till I achieve what I want. One of my struggles is learning moderation and balance. I’ve always had an all-or-nothing personality from growing up in competitive sports and high-pressure environments. I naturally would push myself to extreme exhaustion at all cost to achieve anything. For example I once ran 100 miles in 7 days to lose weight for a show.

Challenge 3:

Putting too much pressure on myself to meet high expectations even during this season of life that requires softness, rest, and grace.

I struggle with learning how to slow down when my mindset has always been to do more, be more, achieve more. I just ultimately fear mediocrity in every aspect.

Challenge 4.

Time management:

I’ve always controlled my time, my discipline, my results.

I don’t make excuses—I execute…But this season?

It’s different

I built my life and career on discipline, structure and control.

I’m not one who struggles with consistency.

I’ve always done whatever it takes no matter what .. some days I can’t find time to eat let alone train.

Stepping into motherhood while holding onto my goals has been one of the hardest

Transitions.

Some days I even forget to eat.

5 Contrasting wins:

What I’m learning is identity isn’t lost in motherhood it’s rebuilt in it. Im completely rewired—constantly learning and expanding who I am and getting to know this new version of me. What I feared would take from me is actually giving me one of the greatest gifts I’ve never had before.

A new purpose to succeed.

A new “why”.

A human who will stand behind and watch his mom conquer her wildest dreams.

At my core, I’m intense.

I don’t know how to casually care about something. If I want it, I will push myself past exhaustion to get it.

That mindset helped me achieve a lot—but it also made me believe everything had to be earned the hard way.

I’ve always been all-or-nothing. Extreme discipline. Extreme pressure. Extreme expectations of myself.

But I’m learning that not everything in life has to come from forcing, pushing, and running myself into the ground.

My mindset has always been:Do more. Be more. Achieve more.

Slowing down does not come naturally to me.Rest has always felt uncomfortable.I fear mediocrity in every area of my life because I’ve spent years conditioning myself to believe average was never enough.

But I’m learning that this season is not asking me to be less driven —it’s teaching me how to channel that drive differently.

The win is realizing my worth is not measured by how much I can push myself before I break.

For the first time, my schedule is no longer fully mine. Learning how to navigate that without feeling like I’m falling behind has been challenging.

I’m learning that discipline in this season looks different.Not weaker. Different.

The win is understanding that adapting does not mean failing.It’s evolving.

The hardest part of becoming a mom wasn’t the physical recovery.It was realizing my old routines, identity, and control no longer existed the same way.

Hooks :

I feared motherhood would make me lose myself.

What I didn’t expect was how much it would force me to face myself.

I thought my intensity was the reason I succeeded.Now I’m realizing it’s also the reason I struggle to slow down.

The hardest part of becoming a mom wasn’t the physical recovery.It was realizing my old routines, identity, and control no longer existed the same way.

“I feared motherhood would make me lose myself.

But what I didn’t expect…

was how much it would force me to face myself.”

[Cut to old bodybuilding clips / structured routines / meal prep / training]

“I built my identity on discipline.

Control.

Intensity.

I was always the person who could push harder.

Do more.

Outwork everyone.”

[Cut to newborn clips / exhausted clips / unfinished meal / pacing with baby]

“And then suddenly…