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Day 1 Homework

5 Struggles:

I sacrificed my own life serving others. I’d take on their emotional burdens as my own, and the feeling of being needed would bring me validation. I was always an empath and ended up putting everyone else first, forgetting about my own needs. When I hit rock bottom (this spring), I realized I had no one I can go to because everyone was focused on themselves and used to Kuba being the support.

2. On the outside I always seemed cool, but deep down struggled with self-worth. I always looked at everyone else as smarter and more capable. This is why I never went all in on myself, and yet was so good at supporting others and lifting them up, seeking counsel from them and ignoring my own intuition. I would basically need external permission to live my life, and I’d do it on their terms, not my actual heart’s desires, because after all, “they know better” right?

3. Man I was always so shy, scared of girls. I remember my first communion, I had to walk beside one of the girls down the aisle. As soon as we got to the end, I ran away! Something in me would shake and tremble at the thought of approaching a girl I like, I’d keep my feelings secret for months, years, hoping one day she’d catch on. Friendzone is where I’d always end up. I was a 30 year old virgin.

4. I was always broke. Growing up I’d see my parents always stressed about finances. I’d see my friends have more money, and I accepted the identity of “just getting by”. Even when I started making good money online, I’d somehow always end up even. I would make my career decisions out of fear of survival instead of what I actually wanted.

5. I sacrificed my family and friends in Canada to start a new life in Spain. I spent 6 years grinding, always ‘busy’ with clients and work. I missed some important years of my nieces and nephews growing up. I barely talk to my loved ones, all in the name of the ‘hustle’. After 6 years, I still ended up broke while making so many others richer, and wonder why I wasted those years.

5 Contrasting Wins:

Self Sacrifice: After putting everyone else’s needs before myself, I hit a wall, went through the dark night of the soul, and realized I’ve neglected myself. Now I can clearly see how ‘useful’ I was to everyone and no longer take on their emotions, manipulations or desires. I put myself first. I now live life on my terms, how I want, embracing the light and dark aspects of myself, not caring what others around me think or feel. Their emotions and thoughts are theirs, I have my own. Man, what a relief to finally start living my own life!

2. Low Self Worth: I realized all the success I helped others achieved, how I was often the cornerstone of it all. All the skills I’ve developed, the expertise, the ideas, they’ve helped many entrepreneurs succeed, while I would just get by, and so I’m finally going all in on myself. I’m finally trusting myself. As soon as I made this decision, everything began aligning for me. The right contacts appeared, the resources showed up, the synchronicities are almost magical. I now make all my decisions out of alignment, not other people’s opinions.

3. Friendzone: After one friend zone too many, I couldn't take the pain anymore. I started researching dating coaches online. I started learning a whole new perspective on women. I began focusing on levelling myself up instead of chasing girls. I invested in a dating program, supped up my style, learned how to speak with and treat women and began approaching them, coming out of my comfort zone. Wow, women began treating me with respect, just like how so many guys treat pretty girls. They began doing favors for me, I started dating regularly, and next thing you know dating wasn’t so scary after all. Now I don’t care to chase any woman, as I know there are many fish in the sea. And so I don’t give off that neediness anymore and actually have a glow in the presence of the ladies.

4. Broke: I never followed the conventional path, hence ending up working online as a coach for my friend who ran a successful business helping entrepreneurs launch and scale their online businesses. This allowed me to live on an island in Spain while making a full-time income online. Eventually I hit a plateau and knew it was time to level up. This took me two years to get around to, staying in burnout mode, until I found another entrepreneur I latched on to. I made her a bunch of money the moment I let go of the coaching gig. This proved that when I make a decision out of alignment instead of fear, the abundance flows. However, once I got the business profitable, the partnership was no longer aligned because she no longer wanted to pay our original agreement. This was the moment I should have listened to my gut and leave, but I stayed out of fear and confusion for two more months. I scaled her business to $24k a month, and still ended up broke. Now I’m finally going all in on my own business, implementing my expertise on myself instead of the safety of another entrepreneur, taking full ownership. The reality is I’ve scaled multiplied businesses, even a couple to $100k. This is proof of how capable I am.

5. Family Ties: It’s time to put myself first and build my life the way I want instead of making decisions out of fear to “one day” have time to live how I want and be there for my family. As I missed so much of my loved-ones lives, especially my little niece who is now 9 years old, to make money to one day have more time, I can never get that time back and still haven’t made the money I thought I would. Now I’m living a more balanced life, where I make time for work and actual living.

3 Hooks:

I helped multiple online entrepreneurs scale to 6 figures… and still ended up broke.
I made someone $24,000 in one month… and it was the month I realized I had to walk away.
The fastest way to kill momentum? Build someone else’s empire while avoiding your own.

EXAMPLE REEL:

Emotion Attempting to Evoke: Shock

(Hook)

Option 1: “I helped someone make $24,000 in one month… and still ended up broke.”

Option 2: “The month I helped a client hit $24,000… was the month I walked away.”

(Visual Concept)

Me grinding away at the laptop, then closing it and walking away into the abyss.

(Voiceocer)

“On paper, I was winning. Living on an island in Spain. Working online. Helping entrepreneurs scale their businesses.”

(Visual Concept)

Clips of Spain, laptop, calls

(Voiceocer)

“But behind the scenes… something felt deeply off.”

(Visual Concept)

Darker clips, tired face

(Voiceocer)

“I poured everything into building someone else’s dream… until I realized I was abandoning my own.”

(Visual Concept)

Quick clips of me working alongside other entrepreneurs. Then a clip of me alone exhausted.

(Voiceocer)

“I told myself staying was the safe choice. But it wasn’t safety. It was fear.”

“Sometimes the scariest thing isn’t failure. Sometimes it’s realizing the ‘safe path’ is slowly killing your dream. And eventually… you have to choose yourself.”

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