🧠 𝗠𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗹 𝗪𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗠𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘆: 𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗹𝘆 𝗢𝗞 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗜𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁

Before we dig into this week’s Mental Wellness Monday lesson from Dr. Pam, there are two important things we want to make sure you know.

1.🌿 𝗝𝗢𝗜𝗡 𝗗𝗥. 𝗣𝗔𝗠’𝗦 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗦𝗞𝗢𝗢𝗟 𝗚𝗥𝗢𝗨𝗣 — 𝗪𝗛𝗜𝗟𝗘 𝗜𝗧’𝗦 𝗦𝗧𝗜𝗟𝗟 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘

If Mental Wellness Mondays resonate with you, this is where the deeper work continues.

🧠 Shrink Rap with Dr. Pam is her dedicated Skool community for mental wellness, trauma-informed healing, identity work, and real-life application.

Inside the group you’ll find:• Deeper teachings and reflections• Ongoing discussion and support• Access to live sessions and replays• A grounded, safe space for healing and growth

👉 Join Dr. Pam’s Skool group here: https://www.skool.com/shrinkrap/about

✨ The group is currently FREE, and those who join now are being grandfathered in before any future changes.

2.📅 𝗟𝗜𝗩𝗘 “𝗔𝗦𝗞 𝗔 𝗦𝗛𝗥𝗜𝗡𝗞” — 𝗙𝗘𝗕𝗥𝗨𝗔𝗥𝗬 𝟮𝟱 @ 𝟲𝗣𝗠 𝗘𝗦𝗧

⚠️ IMPORTANT ATTENDANCE UPDATE

This live Q&A is open to all members, but attendance now requires joining the Holistic American Health Academy (HAHA).

👉 The good news:

• HAHA is FREE to join

• No Zoom

• No registration forms• Just join and show up

✅ How to Attend

1️⃣ Join the Holistic American Health Academy (FREE): https://www.skool.com/holisticamerican/about

2️⃣ Once inside, go to the Calendar

3️⃣ Show up live and click the meeting link

👉 Join the live meeting here: https://www.skool.com/live/6XpMTXQptfR

📺 About Replays

Replays are always hosted inside Dr. Pam’s FREE Skool group, Shrink Rap
Replays are also posted inside HAHA → Classroom → Q&A Replays, which houses our full holistic video library dating back to February 2024

⚠️ Replays are available to HAHA Premium members only. If you are not premium, you must attend live to receive the information.

⏳ Do not wait.Join HAHA now so you’re ready when the session goes live.

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🌎 This Week’s Mental Wellness Monday from Dr.

@Pam Hernandez kaufman

It’s Perfectly OK to be Imperfect!

It is! We’re all imperfect. There is no one who is perfect. God alone holds that title and there are no contenders. That means that we all need to learn to be OK being imperfect humans working toward growth, learning, change, authenticity, betterment.

Dr Brene Brown in her book “The Gifts of Imperfection” says: “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we will ever do.”

So, what in the heck gets in the way of owning our story and loving ourselves? The S-word—SHAME. And, we all have it—it’s universal. We take it on when we do something “bad” or when someone does something “bad” to us. Remember that guilt is about something “bad” I did, but shame is far deeper, more toxic and painful. It’s about something I AM. It is an intensely painful feeling that causes us to feel flawed. Shame makes it impossible to own our story and feel worthy. The worst part is that we are afraid to talk about it. We try to hide it from everyone but it’s lurking there just under the surface. And the rub is that the more we avoid talking about it, the more control it has over us.

Ready for some good news? We can develop shame resilience. This is our secret weapon as we launch an all-out attack on our common enemy—Shame.

If shame needs secrecy, silence and judgement to grow then a counter-attack strike needs openness, vulnerability, authenticity, and connection. Shame resilience is a 5-part retaliation:

• Recognize what triggers shame in you.

• Remember that being imperfect does not mean being inadequate.

• Reach out and share your thoughts and feelings with people you trust.

• Request what you need from yourself and from others.

• Reframe your self-talk.

Negative self-talk leads to negative self-worth and self-loathing. Say—“I did something bad.” Better yet: “I did something I’m not too happy about.” Do not say: “I am bad.”

Recently someone said to me: “I feel so stupid and ashamed. I have so little self-esteem and self-worth. There’s just self-loathing.” This is shame talk, and it causes pain emotionally and physically. What is this person guilty of, ashamed about? Her only sin—loving and trusting someone who betrayed her, and who continues to hurt her today. What’s the shame in loving and trusting someone she thought was worthy of her love and trustworthy? The answer is nothing.

This happens all the time in the therapy room. Clients take on shame as if it’s their burden to carry. I tell them: “Let’s get that slimy shame off you. It was never yours to keep, hang on to, believe. You were never meant to stay in the stinky pit of shame. That shame is for the person who betrayed you to wrestle with.”

As you learn to attack shame—ask yourself:

• What do I act like when I am backed into the “shame corner”? A “mean-nasty”, a “cry-n-hide”, a “people will like me if”?

• How can I protect myself?

• Who can I call or what can I do to work myself out of the “shame corner” and feel worthy again?

• What can I do for myself when I feel small, hurt and in “shame pain”?

Over the weeks ahead I’ll be sharing the 10 Perfectly OK Being Imperfect steps outlined in Brene’s book.

We will deep dive into them one by one and cultivate some great stuff. Here’s a sneak peek. We’ll talk about cultivating authenticity, self-compassion, resiliency, gratitude, intuition and faith, creativity, play & rest, calm, meaning, and laughter.

Yours for wellness,

Dr. Pam

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