HOW TO LET GO OF THE PAST? A WONDERFUL ANSWER BY A BUDDHIST MONK A woman once asked an old Buddhist monk: “How do I let go of my past? The memories still hurt me. The regrets still follow me. No matter how hard I try, I cannot seem to move on.” The old monk smiled gently and asked her: “If you were carrying a heavy bag of stones for many years… what would happen?” The woman replied, “My body would become tired and weak.” The monk nodded. “Your mind works the same way. Every regret, betrayal, heartbreak, guilt, and painful memory you refuse to release becomes another stone you continue carrying.” The woman asked, “But how do I stop carrying it?” The monk picked up a glass of water and held it in front of her. “If I hold this for one minute, it feels light. If I hold it for one hour, it becomes painful. If I hold it all day, my arm becomes numb. The weight never changed. Only the length of time I kept holding it.” Then he looked at her and said: “Your past is the same. The pain is real… but much of your suffering comes from continuously holding onto it.” The woman lowered her head quietly. “But I don’t know how to let go,” she whispered. The monk replied: “You let go by accepting that the past cannot be changed. By forgiving yourself for who you were when you knew less. By understanding that pain taught you what comfort never could. And by finally realizing that you do not have to keep punishing yourself to prove that you learned the lesson.” Then he smiled and said: “The past is a place of reference, not residence. Visit it only to learn… not to live there forever.”

As a chess guy, I have an eye for patterns and details. I have noted many "Experimental Bot Members." These are NOT humans. I know that. I DON'T know who is running the experiments, or what they are. Obviously, I am not going to name these members. Might be a landmine. Here is what I will say. Many have been members since "the beginning." They have no contributions. They give lots of "likes". Those likes come and go....often just disappearing in a couple days. Most are connected to other "A.I." groups. Someone is running experiments. It's not HVT. It may or may not be Skool. One thing for sure though, it IS happening.

Whenever I used to postpone a task and say to myself that I’ll do it later, I’d label myself as a ‘procrastinator’. I looked at myself as someone who lacked focus… Someone who’s just lazy. But these weren’t really the root cause. And I kept looking for the root cause for a long time. And it is only recently that I stumbled upon something strangely effective. Something that completely went under my radar. (how can I be so dumb?) I realized that the real root cause turned out to be something that I completely neglected. Which was indecision. Simply put, I was always super indecisive. I just could not make a freaking decision, for God’s sake. Amd what did I do instead: I would let my environment dictate what’ll happen. I would let other people decide how things will go. And I would literally do nothing and waited to see “how things will go.” This was my way of making a decision. Letting things happen and seeing where life takes me. It was nothing short of a coin flip to decide my next action. No wonder I couldn’t keep a promise to myself. But I’m super grateful that I’ve discovered the law of decisiveness. What I’ve realized is that…procrastination stems from not taking a decision. Every time we procrastinate or put things off… we have a few options to choose and we’re literally not deciding to pick either one of them. So, what do we instead of making a decision? We DON’T do that task at all. And then we say to ourselves: “Why does this keep happening to us?” And this is why we tend to spiral into a series of procrastination. So, the solution is shockingly simple. It is to literally DECIDE. And the easiest part about it is that…. Even if you decide NOT to do a task…that is still a decision. If you’re stuck in a rut and in a loop of endless procrastination (and endless guilt)... chances are that there are so many pending decisions that are waiting for your order. You’re literally the emperor sitting on a throne, and your butler (tasks) comes to ask you for your permission.