You can choose to be two kinds of people: 1. You can be the nihilist, the depresso-expresso 2. Or the optimist, The Happiness Blueprint Which one do you choose? You may as well choose the one where you're happy, right? It's common sense, I think we all would but why is it that some people are nihilists? Why is it that some people don't want to see the positives? Why is it that people blame things on others instead of themselves for their problems? Why is it that most people default to seeing the negatives instead of the positives? Let's explain that. Why do people become nihilists instead of optimists? I think this is because of social conditioning to a big extent. It's because of what they adopt from an early age from friends, family, movies, TV shows, media. They see the people around them complaining and not seeing the positives and things, and blaming things outside of their control for their failures and all that. That will be part of it. The biggest reason why I think people become less positive and more negative is that it's because of the comfort of blaming others for your problems instead of yourself, It removes accountability and it is much easier and more comfortable to blame others instead of yourself. But what do we do to overcome this? This is what I did: 1. "Everything is in my control." Now I would recommend you don't be like, "Everything is your fault," because that makes it seem like everything around you that's bad was your fault and that will begin a low frequency. What you should be like instead is, "Everything is in my control." If you messed up last month here on a row or whatever, be like, "Well it wasn't my fault, It was in my control." That is what you should be like towards situations you're not the happiest about. 2. See no evil here, no evil. What that means is don't consume negative content. That would be looking at comments on a negative YouTube video or hate YouTube videos or sad movies, or a triggering kind of music.

So the past couple of days I’ve spent a ton of time trying my best to focus on all my behaviors, things I say, think, feel and I’ve began to question absolutely everything to the point where I’m not even present to what’s actually happening around me. I’m not sure if that’s a bad thing because I really do want to be present but I’ve been trying to redirect my focus primarily on my inner world than anything because I really wanna get to the core of what’s going on “behind the scenes.” All of yesterday into last night I kept questioning and asking myself what is something I need to let go of and I couldn’t find the answer until last night as I was driving home I was so focused and it’s almost like I went into a trance? (Obviously still focused on driving as well!) But during this, it’s like something hit me. I kept seeing images of hands gripping tightly to one another and the more I thought about it, the more it became clear that I needed to let go of my adopted dad (he died two years ago) and I needed to let go of my ex. I was telling myself I didn’t feel anything left for my ex even when we broke up months ago when I moved but I unconsciously still kept gifts he gave me and his family on my socials and I still kept thinking about memories we had together and all while this hit me, I felt a wave of sorrow/grief rush over me but at the same time somewhere in the mix of that was a feeling of peace and strength. I kept saying “I let you go with love” and while it hurt to say and process this, it made me realize I’m holding onto attachments of people who no longer serve me. My dad and I were really close growing up (even though I and my mom dealt with a ton of mental and verbal abuse) from him. I still found myself closer with him than my mother. I also realized I was telling myself for YEARS “I don’t wanna turn out like my dad” but I’ve taken a real hard look at myself and see I’m repeating a ton of similar behaviors and habits he’s done that I’ve witnessed and it’s still been very difficult to navigate on how to make appropriate changes. I’m leaning more towards trying to accept that, it’s apart of me but I also been realizing I’ve been adapting and mimicking behaviors/lifestyles of new environments and people I have in my life because that’s what feels safer than having an identity/life of my own. But I’m unsure how to allow myself/teach myself safety or to be myself when I don’t know who I am

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