How I Learned to See The Positives

Calvin Coulter

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You can choose to be two kinds of people:

You can be the nihilist, the depresso-expresso
Or the optimist, The Happiness Blueprint

Which one do you choose?

You may as well choose the one where you're happy, right?

It's common sense, I think we all would but why is it that some people are nihilists?

Why is it that some people don't want to see the positives?

Why is it that people blame things on others instead of themselves for their problems?

Why is it that most people default to seeing the negatives instead of the positives?

Let's explain that.

Why do people become nihilists instead of optimists?

I think this is because of social conditioning to a big extent.

It's because of what they adopt from an early age from friends, family, movies, TV shows, media.

They see the people around them complaining and not seeing the positives and things, and blaming things outside of their control for their failures and all that.

That will be part of it.

The biggest reason why I think people become less positive and more negative is that it's because of the comfort of blaming others for your problems instead of yourself, It removes accountability and it is much easier and more comfortable to blame others instead of yourself.

But what do we do to overcome this?

This is what I did:

"Everything is in my control."

Now I would recommend you don't be like, "Everything is your fault," because that makes it seem like everything around you that's bad was your fault and that will begin a low frequency.

What you should be like instead is, "Everything is in my control."

If you messed up last month here on a row or whatever, be like, "Well it wasn't my fault, It was in my control." That is what you should be like towards situations you're not the happiest about.

2. See no evil here, no evil.

What that means is don't consume negative content.

That would be looking at comments on a negative YouTube video or hate YouTube videos or sad movies, or a triggering kind of music.

Detox from this.

Anything like that will all affect your vibe so don't do that.

That is another big thing.

3. Gratitude.

Once you start doing the practise of gratitude journaling, which I have talked about sometimes, this will really help you be more of an optimist because it will get you consistently to write something that you're grateful for daily.

That will fixate your mind on gratitude and what to be grateful for.

Just know that life was a blessing and everything you have around you is a gift.

This will really help with the mindset side of things.

A lot of those things I learned from this book the Subtle Art of Not Giving an F**K by Mark Manson.

I highly recommend you read it once in your life.

Hope this helps you.

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How I Learned to See The Positives