Looking for Advice/Feedback · High Vibe Tribe

Looking for Advice/Feedback

Hi everyone,

I’ve been a little quiet here lately. For a while, I was sharing a series of successes, and then life got very full very quickly.

To put things into perspective: last November, I got a new job that genuinely felt like a saving grace. It helped me get out of a very difficult situation, and for that I’m still grateful. Unfortunately, the company is now heading toward likely insolvency, and I was given a termination agreement. My last day will be July 31st.

The good part is that they handled it much more kindly than they technically had to. I was still in my probation period, so they could have let me go with very little notice, but instead they gave me time to look for something new. Since then, I’ve applied to around a hundred jobs. One of them stood out to me immediately: the company name, the logo, what they do, the role itself. It felt different. Even though the ad said on-site and the location was far enough away that it would require travel, I applied anyway. I thought, “What’s the worst they can say besides no?”

Then I got the first interview. It went well. I was honest about the distance and the fact that I would be willing to travel, and they were open to that. I sent a thank-you email afterward and was invited to a second interview. The second interview also went really well. They explained that even though the advert said on-site, the role would actually be hybrid because they are only in the office three days a week. Again, I was open about being willing to make it work. The conversation ran over time, which felt like a good sign, and afterward I sent another thank-you email.

Then I was invited to a third interview on-site. On my way there, a bird pooped on me, which I’ve been told is good luck. After cleaning that up and making it to the interview, I gave a presentation, and that went well too. The hiring manager told me I was the first of three on-site interviews, but that she strongly felt I was her top pick — not just because I had gone first, but because she had already felt that after the second interview. I don't think she would have said that had she not meant it.

She also said that if it came to me, she would make sure I wasn’t suffering with all the travel. I told her I was willing to travel to both sites and that I could start as early as August 1st, which could be a real advantage because many candidates in Germany would probably have a three-month notice period.

The only thing was that the final on-site interview with another candidate was still a couple of weeks away, so I knew I would have to wait.

That date has now come and gone. This past Tuesday, I sent a polite follow-up to HR, just asking whether there were any updates and letting them know I’m still very interested in the position. Since then, I haven’t heard anything. And now I’m in this strange limbo.

For the past month or two, I’ve had this very strong feeling that this job is already mine. That this city is part of my future. That this role is exactly the kind of opportunity I’ve been moving toward. But now that everything is quiet, doubt has started creeping in.

I find myself wondering things like: Is HR on vacation because it’s summer? Is someone sick? Are they overloaded because I was told one of the HR people at another site recently resigned? Did I tell too many people at my current job? Could someone have somehow interfered? I know some of those thoughts are probably just anxiety trying to fill in the silence. But I also really hate not knowing.

What I’ve noticed most, though, is that I started putting my life on hold while waiting for this yes or no. As if I needed permission from an email before I could keep living. But I still need to clean my apartment. I still need to learn German. I still need to sign up for exams, handle appointments, take care of myself, and keep moving forward. The outcome of one email doesn’t change those things.

So I’m trying to practice living my life inside the uncertainty instead of freezing until I know.

I guess what I’m wondering is: has anyone else been in this kind of situation? Where something feels so aligned, and you have such a strong sense that it’s yours, but then right before the yes or no, the uncertainty starts getting loud?

How do you stay grounded while waiting? How do you keep trusting yourself and your intuition without letting doubt take over?

I’d really appreciate any advice, encouragement, or shared experiences.

17 comments

Looking for Advice/Feedback