One of the most polarising teaching on restoration is free will. While it is true that it takes two people to restore a marriage, God has his ways to change our hearts and minds. He is a sovereign God, however some people struggle because they want God to restore them to avoid the pain. God has a bigger plan that is beyond pain, fear and insecurities, He does it to restore His perfect will in our lives and to establish His Kingdom through us. Your spouse maybe not willing to restore your marriage right now but they will not always be against restoration, trust The Lord. The Journey exposes you to things you are reluctant to deal with and sometimes die to, consider Him faithful and follow through His leading