I know it's been uber quiet in here - I am working on making some noise. In the meantime, in between time, this is a check-in. How are you, where are you, who are you in this season? For me, this too shall pass, I am in a transition period, teetering on divorce, in this season I am, not strong, I am aware. I'm tired of being "strong" and I choose to be aware - aware of my choices, how they impact me and the choices I make based on the impact. That's it. How about you?

Y’all, the “becoming” energy is everywhere. Since I posted about it, so many people messaged or commented, and I felt that confirmation deep. We’re not lost. We’re just aligning. And part of that alignment is knowing how we show up in community spaces. Are you the Lurker? The Hype Friend? The Builder? ✨ Before you jump into another launch or course, take a second to get clear on your community identity. I built a short quiz to help you figure it out and get real recs for spaces where your energy belongs. Drop your results in the comments 👇🏽 https://form.typeform.com/to/PtGpAWuZ

What To Do: You don’t need another freebie. You don’t need 4 more PDFs, 3 more courses, or 12 more tabs open. You need to use the knowledge you’ve already got. Grab one thing you saved, an idea, a template, a tool and actually do something with it today. Don’t just scroll for inspiration. Make a move. How Not to: Don’t trick yourself into thinking preparation = progress. It feels productive, sure. But clarity also comes from application, not accumulation. What’s one resource you already have that you’ve been avoiding using? Reply with it below and commit to using it this week. And because I put my action where my keyboard warrior fingers are - I attached some resources I've sat on but updated this morning after creating this post. But you can also access it here https://docs.google.com/document/d/14Tx5YOIYSihTNPvnvaoYzB-U2JsaMSL9oln5f1hu3iY/view https://docs.google.com/document/d/14Tx5YOIYSihTNPvnvaoYzB-U2JsaMSL9oln5f1hu3iY/view Let’s stop hoarding wisdom and start turning it into action. 💜 This is your gentle reminder that your next breakthrough isn’t sitting in someone else’s download folder, it’s in your drafts. The Drama in Your Therapy: "The Scroll Scene" - Rehearse Before You React Goal: Use role-play and physicality to explore the gap between consuming vs. contributing inside a community (or any space you're in). 👣 Step-by-Step (Do this alone in a quiet space) 1. Set the Stage: Stand in your space. Imagine a giant scroll in your hands—it’s your feed, your community, your inbox of “shoulds.” 2. Play 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘚𝘤𝘳𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘳. - Mimic the motion of scrolling. - React out loud to what you see (this can be exaggerated or whispered): 3. Now become 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘈𝘱𝘱𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘳. - Take a breath. Let the scroll disappear. - Stand like someone who knows they have value. - Speak one small action aloud, using your voice, gesture, or facial expression

Trumps administration is coming to save you...sort of. And all it took was a bunch of billionaires…billionairing. Now, I’m not here to stan Trump or cosign chaos. But I am here to name something that a lot of folks won’t say out loud (well my professor does): He speaks directly to his people and they act. That action might be wild, messy, even dangerous… But it’s still action. It’s momentum. Meanwhile, many of us are stuck waiting on a perfectly-worded policy, a perfectly-organized protest, a perfectly-packaged program, a perfectly crafted community. Waiting on "the right time" to move. The Time is Now. The right party to protect us. We can protect ourselves, and party later. The right structure to save us. We're laying foundations they can't take from us. And I hate to break it to you, but… Neither party is coming. Nobody is coming to save you. Nobody is coming to give you a grant. Nobody is coming to invest in you. But this is not about bootstrapping. My boots have worn heels. And my big toe hurts. That’s why I no longer identify with Democrat or Republican. At this point, I’m repping the Party of Me: My family. My health. My peace. My future. My bank account. My community (Arlan's All Access). My ability to sleep at night without spiraling. Even in destruction, there is clarity. The government, Trump, the billionaires, they think they’re saving the system by stepping on the rest of us. And maybe, in a twisted way, they are saving something… Because their actions are forcing the rest of us to tilt our head up a little, to come alive. To stop waiting. To start building. To save ourselves. Here’s what I’ve learned watching this political circus play out: You don’t need a perfect plan to take meaningful action, but you do need a community, a compass, and a commitment. 🎯 What you can do: The Self-Led Strategy Starter If you're tired of waiting on external change, ask yourself: 1. What do I need right now that I keep waiting for someone else to provide? 2. Who in my current circle actually helps me feel powerful, not just informed?

TL;DR: - Stop using busywork to avoid stepping into your power. - Set a reciprocation rule before taking on commitments. - Show up consistently as the expert others already see in you. UPDATE: I recorded a video as well 😄 I wrote about Heyboss.xyz in Arlan’s All Access a few weeks ago. It’s a solid platform, and my opinion hasn’t changed. The founder is running Zoom sessions where users give real-time feedback in exchange for app credits; very smart move. But that’s not what gave me pause. As I explained my issues, she said: "Wow, you know more techy stuff than about 90% of my users." My face: 🤔 My 🧠: No, you don’t... She then asked: - How would this feature (y) work for you vs. someone who wouldn't know how to do (x)? - If you had a non-techy friend, would this feature work? At that moment, I realized that my brain was being picked by someone who’d already built and sold a successful tech company. A little voice whispered: "You know what you know. You should talk more about those things… duh." And yet, I am my own roadblock. So how do I stop blocking myself and show up for the people waiting for me? I started by hitting pause on grad school. I’m four classes away from another master’s degree… that I don’t actually need. So, I’m redirecting that energy into what I truly want to build. 3 Steps to Stop Being Your Own Saboteur 1. Recognize & Reframe the Pattern - Notice when you're engaging in "productive distractions", like more school, unpaid work, or projects that don’t align with your goals. - Ask: Is this moving me forward, or is this just a way to avoid stepping into my full potential? - Instead of calling it self-sabotage, reframe it: This is fear in disguise. Growth comes from facing it. 2. Set a Reciprocation Rule - Before saying yes to anything, ask: What am I getting in return? - If the answer is just “experience” or “exposure,” dig deeper. Are you truly gaining or just giving your skills away for free? - Create a "Decision Filter" - every project must check at least two of these: - ✅ Aligns with my core goals - ✅ Leads to financial or strategic gain - ✅ Contributes to something I’m actively building - It’s a no (or a strategic delay) if it doesn't check two boxes.