So what has changed for you in this new year? Silly question right? Maybe. Maybe not. This morning, as I lay in bed staring at the ceiling, I argued with myself about getting up. I wasn’t tired. I was stalling. he question finally go me up was this: What will it cost you to stay in this bed and do nothing? That question stopped the arguing. I took a deep breath, considered all of the last 5 years. And I got up. While the rest of house was shrouded in darkness, I started gathering. My cheap little Walmart desk That ring light that works sometimes and not at all. The tripod that I clipped my skin in. Phone Charger Ikea foldable chair. Destination: My closet. Nothing about this moment was optimized. I didn't improve anything. I simply noticed a pattern. When I delay, it’s not because I don’t know what to do. It's because staying still feels safer than moving imperfectly. That’s what January is for. Locate isn’t about action but about seeing what repeats and what it costs you when it does. Before you change anything, notice: - Where you hesitate. - What question actually moves you. - What you’re protecting when you stay still. No fixing. No reframing. No pressure. Just locate it. Language to hold this month: “I’m locating, not fixing.” Disclaimer: I have a desk set up but my husband was still sleep🙃.

It’s easy to get stuck on what’s fair or unfair. But fairness isn’t the full picture. It’s a corner of it. Zoom out. Here’s what I can see clearly now: Nothing in my life is going to change, not my marriage, my relationships, my role as a mother, until I stop organizing my choices around safety and proximity to safety. Comfort has been the strategy, the default for far too long. It's no longer the solution. What do you need to walk away from today?

I know it's been uber quiet in here - I am working on making some noise. In the meantime, in between time, this is a check-in. How are you, where are you, who are you in this season? For me, this too shall pass, I am in a transition period, teetering on divorce, in this season I am, not strong, I am aware. I'm tired of being "strong" and I choose to be aware - aware of my choices, how they impact me and the choices I make based on the impact. That's it. How about you?