I've been deep in studying what makes some communities thrive while others die a slow, painful death. And I discovered something controversial: The most successful groups aren't the ones with the strictest rules. ..... They're the ones where people feel safe being weird. Let me explain... Everyone talks about "staying focused" and "keeping things on topic" in online communities. But here's what I've noticed: The groups where everyone puts on their "professional mask" and only shares the "right" stuff? ....they become boring. Sterile. Transactional. ...People show up less. Engagement drops. The magic dies. But the groups where people feel free to share their quirks? Their random thoughts? Their authentic selves? Those groups become magnetic. Because here's the truth most people miss: We're not just looking for information or advice. We're looking to BELONG. To be seen. To be accepted. To drop the performance. When someone shares a "weird" hobby, admits they're struggling, or cracks a joke that has nothing to do with "the topic" ...That's when real connection happens. So here's my controversial take: Maybe we've been building communities wrong. Maybe the goal isn't to eliminate the "off-topic" stuff. Maybe the goal is to CREATE SPACE for people to be fully human first. And then the valuable business stuff follows naturally. When people feel like they truly belong, they contribute more. They engage deeper. They stay longer. Question for you: In the groups you're part of (or the ones you run) ...Do you encourage people to show their full personality? Their quirks? Their "off-brand" moments? ....Or are you trying to keep everything "professional and focused"? ...I'm genuinely curious what others think about this. Drop a comment below - especially if you think I'm completely wrong about this.

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