I was talking to my neighbor yesterday, and she asked me: “How do I know if I’m the problem in my relationship… or if he is?” She was exhausted. Confused. She wanted clarity. A diagnosis. Someone to finally say: It’s you. Or: It’s him. I told her, “You probably won’t like my answer.” Then I said: Everything that hurts inside you is yours. That doesn’t mean his behavior is always acceptable. It doesn’t mean he isn’t defensive, blaming, distant, or manipulative. It doesn’t mean you’re imagining things. What I’m really saying is that the pain activated in you belongs to your nervous system, your history, your unmet needs, your self-abandonment. - When he withdraws, what happens inside you? - When he blames, what do you feel? - When he shuts down, do you collapse? Attack? Over-explain? Comply? That part is yours. Relationships are systems.Two nervous systems dancing with each other’s wounds. Trying to figure out “who has the problem” keeps you focused outward. Healing begins the moment you turn inward: - Where am I abandoning myself here? - What am I afraid to feel? - What am I tolerating that hurts me? - What would be loving toward myself right now? Here is the paradox: He may have real issues. And you still cannot solve them. But you can change your participation in the dynamic. When one person stops self-abandoning, the entire system shifts. Sometimes the relationship improves. Sometimes it falls apart. But either way, clarity comes. And you start healing the day you decide to take care of what is hurting you, instead of placing all your attention on the other person.

Did not see that coming! Was sent into a fully layered memory I had no idea needing healing. Thank you Aaron for a wonderful gift to embrace my little girl, to love her and make her feel safe. 🫶🏼

The universe notices your thoughts, your words, and the energy you carry. Positive intentions aren’t wishful thinking, they guide your focus, your actions, and the opportunities that show up. This weekend, I’m choosing ease. I’m spending my money without guilt, investing in myself, going out for dinner, maybe even buying someone a coffee. I’m imagining abundance showing up in ways I can’t predict. The key: feel your intentions, trust they’re moving toward you, and take aligned action. The universe mirrors your energy. When you act from ease and confidence, things flow, often better than you imagined 🌱

Have you ever noticed the more you want certain things the more you energetically “push” them away? And why is it when you finally let go and are good either way… or you forgot about it… THEN it comes into your life? I was speaking to a friend yesterday who said she has been trying to have a baby with her husband for 2 years now They do all the things… Mainly the obvious one… but also all the other things to increase the likelihood of it happening And yet they have yet to have a baby This leaves them frustrated and feeling like there is something wrong Their desire for a baby is so strong it affects their energy and day to day life I shared with her a few stories I’ve heard from clients and other people that had similar challenges and then eventually got pregnant or had a baby There's a well-known phenomenon where couples who've struggled with infertility, after releasing the pressure and choosing to adopt, suddenly find themselves pregnant shortly after What is happening there? Could it be that in the energy of being parents… they release the need and then their nervous systems relax? Could it be that their adopted baby was meant to be in their life as the oldest and then following kids are meant to come after? Who knows the spiritual implications however when giving something up to the divine or God… I believe it is the best way to release resistance and pressure My friend said that she always KNEW she would adopt… and her husband was on board too... They just figured they should try now while the timing seemed “right” To me it was clear to see that since they always wanted to adopt regardless of if they had kids or not… maybe they could go into that now and then the pressure would release and who knows… Shortly afterwards she could become pregnant! Anyways today's message of the day is to realize you can let go and give it up to the divine… Letting go of resistance is the key to feeling lighter and more free And a more regulated nervous system!

To NOT feel the compulsion to eat something, to actually feel neutral about food itself. Maybe you’ve relied on food to give you comfort, joy, solace, and pleasure- for years, or maybe even decades like myself. As you make healthier food choices, balance your blood sugar, support insulin sensitivity through practices like intermittent fasting, the drive to eat can go down significantly. This is something I hear a lot from folks who have tried GLP 1- drugs or the carnivore diet…the pleasure of food, the drive to eat, just goes away sometimes. And that can be frickin’ uncomfortable for those of us who are so used to deriving not only pleasure- but joy, comfort, protection, and maybe our very survival, from food. If you haven’t ever experienced total neutrality around food, it can seem like a good problem to have. It’s easy to think, “Oh gosh, it would be amazing to not be craving food every 30 minutes! I WISH I could feel totally neutral about food!”. And maybe for some people, it IS a great experience and actually feels good, but I myself have found it unsettling at times. I felt this the other day. I ate my green soup, with celery, avocado, parsley, lemon, garlic, and it was fine. I felt grateful for the nutrients in the soup. After I finished, I did NOT feel compelled to eat anything else. And it wasn’t very much soup. I usually have a low sugar fruit and some nuts or something like that after having a veggie-rich meal, and I find joy in that. It felt strange not to feel the desire for fruit, or any other kind of food. I didn’t want anything else. I could care less about food in that moment. And I found myself, ironically, missing the desire to have another piece of food. Maybe someday I will feel ok with that experience of total neutrality. But in that moment, I wasn’t ready for it. Beyond that, I felt that I needed more calories. So, I hacked my experience by having a date. It’s a healthy-ish form of sugar. Blood sugar spikes are a foolproof way to increase cravings and joy of food.