Emotional Eating and Why it Happens (a bit long)
Today I wanted to post an email I sent out to my email subscribers, that I thought some here may find useful. Sorry for the length, I had a lot to say. It’s been one of those days. Work was a joke, your boss was on one, you snapped at your partner, the house looks like a toy store exploded… Next thing you know, you’re standing in the kitchen, half-present, half-zoned out, looking for a little relief in a bag of chips. You’re not actually hungry. You’re looking for a timeout from your own life. That’s emotional eating. Totally common. Totally human. But if you’re trying to lose fat, feel better, and stop starting over every Monday…it’s also one of the main anchors holding you in place. Today I want to walk you through three things: 1. Why emotional eating actually happens 2. How to tell physical hunger from emotional hunger 3. What to do instead (without giving up food forever or becoming a monk) Why emotional eating happens (you’re not broken) Your brain is not a villain. It’s just efficient. At some point it learned: “When I feel stressed / overwhelmed / lonely / bored…eating something tasty = instant relief.” Food gives you: - A hit of dopamine (feel-good chemical) - A distraction from whatever feels heavy - A sense of control (“I can’t fix my day, but I can eat this”) So the next time your day goes sideways, your brain runs that same play: Bad day > Kitchen > Snack > Tiny relief > Repeat. The problem? That 5–10 minutes of relief keeps turning into: - Extra 300–800 calories - Sluggish sleep - Waking up frustrated and saying, “What is wrong with me?” Answer: nothing is “wrong” with you. You’re just using food as your primary coping tool…and that tool has side effects when you’re already carrying more weight than you want. Physical vs emotional hunger (super simple cheat sheet) Here’s a stupid-simple way to tell which one you’re dealing with. Physical hunger: - Comes on gradually - You could eat a real meal (protein, carbs, fats) - You can usually wait 20–30 minutes - You feel it in your stomach - After you eat a normal meal, you feel satisfied (not guilty)