Most guys care what people think of them. A LOT. They outsource their self-worth to the real and imagined judgments of others. A vague look, a sharp tone, an eye-roll, a slow reply, a bit of criticism… and suddenly you’re doing mental gymnastics trying to “fix” how you’re perceived. Of all the Nice Guy Syndrome problems I've had, this is one of the few that I feel I have completely CURED for myself. I'm now at the point where caring about someone's opinion of me doesn't even make sense; it simply doesn't register as information that matters to me at all. I believe anyone can learn to let go of caring what others think and getting defensive. It's just a matter of changing the way you get validation and process reactions from others. So I've created a practical playbook-style guide you can use to stop being needy for validation and emotionally hurt by criticism from other people. This concise guide covers: - What it really means to "care" what others think - The mental model: how to fill your own cup with self-validation - The 7 filters that make judgements against you powerless - The practical exercise (do this today) to make this real - The “never defend yourself” drill - Build your self-worth system (the real foundation to long term confidence) Comment "Confident!" to get a copy of it! You have until the end of Fri this week to get your copy. This playbook is a brief guide for the "How to Not Give a Fuck" workshop I'll be running next Tues, (exclusive and free for VIP members only): https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/calendar?eid=fd962f8e69b4497e941dfbb8ad760da7 This short workshop will be all about how to train yourself to stop caring what other people think of you, so that you're socially confident and free at all times! Dan

Hey guys, thanks for all your feedback on improving the group. One main idea coming through is 30 day challenges. Something fun and practical we can do together as a group. I wanted to put a twist on this, incorporating some kind of playful competitive element that will push us to really step up. Here's the idea: Squid Game 30-day Survival Challenge I'd start the month with some kind of themed challenge, e.g. Assertiveness. A few times per week there would be some small but challenging action to take that can be "proven" to the rest of the group (e.g. "Tell us about a confrontation you're avoiding" or "Screenshot a picture of you telling someone to call you instead of text" or "Post a video of you doing..."). The people who complete the challenge within 48 hours move onto the next round. Those who don't are eliminated and must wait for the next month. I'm thinking BIG prizes for the winners, like 3x months of 1:1 coaching with me for the winner (worth $6k), 3 months of free Brotherhood for the 2nd place, and maybe a Brojo tshirts or books for 3rd. What do you guys think? Let me know what this game would need to include for you to be excited about participating!