@Justin Glatz If possible, try working a few hours a day at a coffee shop or shared office space. If you become a regular somewhere it becomes easier to talk to the other regulars. As for the gym, note where and when in the gym I'm doing this. Sitting at the shake bar. I stay there, drink it and chat with the workers or or the customers waiting for their shakes. Waiting outside the room for group cardio classes. These always have a great girl to guy ratio and the girls are usually chatting amongst themselves because girls usually go in groups. You just listen and chime in. In the hot tub, that's a social gathering space designedfor conversation. If all you do is spend time lifting and on a cardio machine, then yeah, people only have their ear buds in. You have to put yourself in the social spaces of the gym if you want to make friends with women there. The key requirement of social circle game is to actually be social.

@Justin Glatz It's always a me problem for every guy until it's not. Every guy's history and life scenario is different and each guy, once he's become comfortable with it, his own way of doing things. I was surrounded by women most of my life, so yeah, I know how to talk to them to make friends. I know some guys who have only interacted with a handful of women in their 40+ years, and yeah, they struggle a lot. The key is exposure. You just need to put yourself in situations where there are lots of women so you can learn the there language so to speak. Even if you don't talk much for a while, just go to where women are and listen to them talk to each other. At some point you'll feel an opportunity to chime in or say something funny. Sometimes that will enter you into a good conversation, and sometimes it won't. But each time you'll become a bit better at it and things will start to get easier. But it can take time.

As a highschool teacher, I'm trying to minimize pre-selection photos, at least party boy style ones, on my public instagram profile. It's not worth putting your career at risk.

It's better to ask "why" women want a tall guy. It's because they feel safe around him. But you know what else makes them feel safe, strength. You'll get a way better ROI from the gym than lifts in your shoes.

You can also decide how you craft your preselection photos. Sartain is big on charity events. Take girls to those and get photos there, or with women working at a soup kitchen, or a political rally, or at a mixed gender sporting event. It doesn't have to all look like pimps and 304s. This is the strategy I plan to adopt for preselection because of the field I work in. Kids also adapt. My daughters got used to the fact that I like younger women, they even tease me about it now. It's still a bit awkward for them, especially my 15 year old, but its not a major issue. I don't introduce them to the women, they just look over my shoulder sometimes and see photos lol.

@Jay Shah That's because they drank the Kool-Aid and think that behaviour will make them more attractive to women.