My marriage ended this weekend...
My marriage broke this weekend. After 25 years together, I quit it. I was tired of the same pattern repeating itself over and over. When sh*t got hard, he ran away. He didn't take ownership. Which is strange, since he's responsible when it comes to sales. He's a world-class sales guy. Knocks on doors. Generates millions of dollars as a closer, because he's non-attached - not afraid to hear 'no'. But when it comes to our marriage, he was afraid of my rejection. Our pattern, our little song and dance, is that when we were challenged, he was the one who fled, and I'm the one who stuck around and fought. And I fought for the last time this weekend, because my body can't handle the fight anymore. Not after 25 years of this. So I gave up the fight. For my health. For our kids' sake. This time, I decided to stop picking up the pieces, and accept that our marriage is over. On the surface, it looks like we have the perfect life. Perfect million-dollar family. Business we love. Big 6,000 sq foot home on 21 acres. Travel everywhere around the world. Perfect kids. Good-hearted people. This is true 95% of the time. But the 5% of the time, things were destructive. There were old demons that would always appear. No one could ever tell, unless they peaked through the curtains, broke into the house, and went down to the cellar in the back corner. That's where the demons hid. Some might look at it and say it's because it's hard to do business with your spouse. But the truth is, it's hard to do business - period. If you add an unstable relationship with demons, it makes it almost impossible. I know this sounds dramatic, and it is. There have been so many dishes broken in our marriage, words left unspoken, words harshly thrown about, and so much damage that nothing could fix it. We have no choice but to end that marriage. So, can we be successful in business and have a solid marriage simultaneously? Absolutely. I still believe in marriage. But you have to be willing to dismantle the old marriage, and build it back up - NEW.