D day for me is 5 months ago, and in the days after I was a mess. Completely alone with my daughters leaving for college with the woman I loved and who I thought loved me. Until I found out she had an affair and spent 20k on credit cards. We had a happy marriage. My wife confirmed this a day or two after D day. None of this made sense, so I tried to make sense of it all. Affair books, Chat GPT, podcasts, MC, and The Forge. Recently Paul and I spoke about the difference between reconciliation and forgiveness. Forgiveness is FOR ME, and will allow me to put aside all of my anger and confusion and take a step back from the confusion. As I recently told another guy in the group, “she broke it, she bought it”. So as I work on forgiveness, I sit back and wait to see if reconciliation is even an option. That ball is mostly in her court. It’s a work in progress, but it gives me something to work towards for myself, not for her, and not for our relationship. When I was trying to fix everything, I would mostly end up frustrated and resentful.

So glad each one of you is in this group. This is a place where we can heal as men, as husbands, as fathers without shame, without judgment. I’m sorry you’re having to navigate this journey, but you are not alone. Feel free to drop a quick intro below let us know where you’re from!