@Inna Shapiro it does so often come down to loving ourselves. This is beautiful. Thank you for your guidance. 🙏

@Nama Azubiah I’ll give it a try! Thank you so much 😊

I agree with others that have pointed you toward your own need for self love. Typically you want to identify what bothers you about how they are treating you and ask how you are doing that to yourself. For example, if they say things that are unkind, you ask: “how am I being unkind to myself?” Or if they make you feel like you aren’t a priority, then you ask: “how do I not make myself a priority.” These practices are to help you learn to love you. You may want to also look at your attachments. I’m stealing Rey’s teaching for this one because it’s super helpful. This is what he says: The one practice that will solve this for you, is developing the power of observation. Because any time you observe something, there always needs to be two things: 1. And object of your observation 2. A subject (you) to observe that object. Through your observations of your thoughts, your feelings, your experiences you begin to develop detachment from them.

I’m so happy to know this exists! Beautiful. Thank you for sharing 🙏

Howdy!

This sounds like it’s your nervous system coming down from survival-mode bonding. When things are hard or challenging, you feel activation. The “passion” is actually your survival system firing up. You are actually addicted/attached to the intensity because to you it feels like love. This, like most things we have to tackle on the path to awakening, is likely rooted in childhood trauma. The calm boredom is actually parasympathetic safety. Your body likely doesn’t recognize this lack of adrenaline as safe though. The calm is likely triggering your attachment wound. Some part of you thinks that love is vigilance, rather than peace. The way to transform this is to integrate it. You could use a simple affirmation like: “I’m safe now. Stillness is connection. I am learning to feel love without needing intensity.”