@Jenny Landis The last 4 years have changed my life in more ways than one and one of the most significant changes is that my people pleaser mask is gone. For most of my life, I suppressed parts of myself that I thought could potentially inconvenience or annoy people. I shrunk down the parts of myself that were "too much" and it caused me physical harm and made it so I didn't completely fit in anywhere. I do have a few amazing friends who have made me feel at home as myself, but I was always hanging out on the outskirts of every group I was ever in. I was allowed to be in the group, but I never truly belonged. My masks don't fit anymore so I'm getting comfortable and enjoying being myself without worrying about fitting in. I don't need to change myself to fit in, I just need to find my people. My husband and kids have played a huge role in me accepting myself. They are amazing humans and if they love the real me, I must not be so bad. The older I get, the more I appreciate myself, flaws and all and I'm looking forward to becoming more and more of who I am deep inside.

@Jenny Landis You're such a sweet person with a beautiful heart! Being a black sheep to strangers or people who are jerks isn't so bad, but to be a black sheep to people who you care about or who are supposed to care about you if heartbreaking. I'm sorry you've felt like this in life 🫂. I've felt invisible most of the life so I really appreciate you seeing me 😊.

@Jenny Landis No worries at all! I think it hits particularly hard with people who have experienced parental neglect (whether intentional or unintentional). The first time I heard this song I experienced heartbreaking grief, but then when I listened to it with my cuddling sleepy babies, I felt grateful to be a safe space for my kids. Music is magical like that.

@Jenny Landis Yes! That's sounds like a super fun game 😊. Every once in a while my husband and I will go down a music rabbithole from the past. It's good to bring back some of those positive memories and it's like a hug for our inner children.

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@Jenny Landis I know, they're so expensive 😭

@Jenny Landis That's rough. I'm sorry 🫂. You are so strong for coming from a place of understanding and in the process helping to heal yourself. See? This is why I love and appreciate your group. It's a safe place to be vulnerable 😊.

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