We worship the champions, athletes, founders, billionaires and pretend their internal world must be as polished as their external success. But the more I studied them, the more I realized: They don’t win because they’re “whole.” They win because something in them is missing. Michael Jordan wasn’t calm. Elon Musk isn’t balanced. Most high performers don’t have an “off” button. That’s the point, they JUST CAN’T STOP. If you’re optimizing for peace, don’t follow their blueprint. If you’re optimizing for impact, understand the cost: - A superiority complex will pull you forward. - An insecurity will push you harder from back. - Discipline will keep you from collapsing into pleasures. These aren’t virtues, they’re engines (that’s the best way to put it) and engines don’t ask if you’re comfortable, they just RUN. So the real question isn’t “How do I become like them?” It’s very simply: “What am I solving for?”

I used to think I wanted a soft life. Security. Predictability. A job that asks not much of me. But I stayed in that world just enough that my soul started pacing like a caged animal. I needed resistance. Something to push against. Something that demands more from me than the version of me from yesterday. That’s why challenge feels strangely nutritious. It feeds the parts of you that boredom starves. It sharpens your eyes. It steadies your speech. It strengthens the moral spine that lets you stand upright in a collapsing world. “Life is tragedy mixed with malevolence” 100% sure. But the human spirit was built exactly for that battlefield. We don’t rise despite difficulty. We rise because of it.

Your life is a series of decisions dictated by your mental frame. Most of us inherit a frame, which creates a longing for destructive "freedom." The Construction Process I Used To Form My Mental Frame That Serves Me: - Data Collection: Every time you experience something you despise, write it down. These are the negative data points that will work as holes to avoid. - Pattern Recognition: Reflect on your past. What do you never want to experience again? This forms the outer boundary of your new frame. - Decision Filter: You will have a "away from" compass. It allows you to stop, think, and consciously choose the opposite direction. Just inversion principle (popularised by Charlie Munger) at its best. This provided me the negative energy to break from the default state of existence into the one I desired.

At the age of 18, I was stuck because I was hunting the “perfect path.” But I didn’t stop to think that I can’t choose the perfect path when I’ve never walked any path at all. Tragedy for most of us in the 20s. Just move, fail, and iterate. It’s like being chased by a cat while searching for cheese. You don’t need the exact route; you just need to start running in any direction that moves you away from what’s killing you. Hate your job? Run in the opposite direction. Hate your environment? Move toward anything different. Hate the version of yourself you’ve become? Pick the opposite direction and start walking. Progress is built through rapid iterations, not perfect decisions. You can hear Naval yap about this in most of his tweets. Directionally correct beats intellectually perfect. I came to the conclusion that you discover your thing by doing, not thinking. By course-correcting, not overplanning. By running from the life you don’t want toward the life that keeps whispering, “Try me.” PS: It was hard to accept because I had many pieces of evidence of being correct, and I was arrogant enough to think I know all, and the reality had a field day with this belief of mine.

For the longest time, I blamed myself. I thought the reason I wasn’t growing fast enough was because I wasn’t motivated enough. I told myself I needed to wake up earlier, hustle harder, and push through every obstacle with more “discipline.” But here’s what I learned and it completely reshaped my entire approach to business and coaching: 👉 The problem was never motivation. It was alignment. It wasn’t that I wasn’t working hard…It’s that I didn’t have a system that matched how real people think, decide, and take action. 👉Once my funnel began to reflect human psychology curiosity, trust, desire, and belief everything shifted almost overnight. 1. My calendar started filling naturally. 2. Clients began reaching out before I ever pitched them. 3.My conversations stopped feeling like “sales calls” and started feeling like transformational dialogues. And that’s when it clicked People don’t commit because you convince them. They commit because your process makes sense to them emotionally, psychologically, and logically. 🔥 Lesson: You were never broken. Your strategy might just be. If you’ve ever felt like you’re pushing harder than your business is pushing for you, maybe it’s not your drive that’s off maybe it’s your design.