We really struggle with communication because I like to keep conversations more contained (more focused on 1 or 2 things that we can work on) and she makes a lot of connections across many aspects of our relationship, both current and from the past. I sometimes get lost and find that I can't follow what would really help her feel cared for. We can't seem to get on the same page, talk past one another, and end up angry that we aren't being heard. Separately, she holds a lot of resentment towards me because of our history. She wants me to make a quick and abrupt change to my life perspective and that seems actually impossible to me as I think these things need to be worked through with patience and conscious effort. This makes it hard for us to recognize and appreciate improvements.