I think our biggest hurdle is getting to a place of communication about the invisible labor. Essentially, with my ADHD (a reality, not an excuse), I have a hard time remembering little details and setting habits around division of labor. Part of this is me realizing that even if I’m thinking about doing or planning something, if I don’t communicate that I’m thinking about the things, my wife begins to feel alone in her attention to details and also begins to feel like I don’t care about the things in the same way she feels like she has to.