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Figuring out my problems with what I want vs what my parents want for me
I think I know the reason as to why I feel my religion may be holding me back from achieving my goals with women: I feel embarrassed even saying this, but I low key want to be an ethical womanizer. I want to have my own pick of women, and having a pool of women makes it a lot easier for me. I want to be a man that just gets women, not matter their background, and does not hurt anyone in the process. However, I feel guilty for wanting to have multiple women clamoring around me. My religion teaches me that having any sexual desire for any woman other than my significant other is wrong. I just want to have multiple female friends, nothing more. How do I get around this, once and for all? I still haven't gone on a date, and I will be travelling over the Christmas period, so I don't know how much of a chance I will have to finally get some dating experience.
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A Serious Barrier to having the lifestyle I want
I really think that my religion (Christianity) is becoming a bit of a mental roadblock to me achieving the lifestyle I want. I don't want a serious relationship with exclusively 1 woman for now. My vision for my social life: 1) Become a guy that people go to for a fun time I plan on achieving this by hosting small container events first, then moving to houseparties when I finally get out of my parents' house for good. (At least in my country, by default you live with your parents until you are 35, unless you get married or earn enough to rent a place, which is very expensive and can only work if you earn at least $7K-$10K SGD per month. I don't have that option now as I am very young in my career. I only earn $1.2K SGD per month now as I work part time.) 2) Become a man who women love By this, I don't mean sleeping with every girl whom I have a connection with. I mean making female friends whom can calibrate me with their female friends and possibly sleep with a few of them if I feel there could be a genuine connection between the 2 of us. 3) Become a man whom people don't want to fuck over I'm too much of a pushover at the moment. I'm someone who people say is too easily taken advantage of, and easily influenced. I intend to reverse this by playing the power game with people whom I think could benefit me, or be a threat to me. I have read The 48 Laws of Power and The 33 Strategies of War, which have helped me well so far. Here's where I feel my plan has flaws: I feel that by having too many female friends, I will alienate those who brought me up. My parents feel I have lost my perspective over how the world works. Every time I want to take action on my goals to becoming better with women, I don't feel right. I don't want to put myself at unnecessary risk where I have too many enemies to deal with just because I achieved a lifestyle that I wanted. I'm not sure how to manage my expectations as I have reservations over my religion and what my parents expect of me. I don't know how to talk to my parents about this. They feel with even my mild autism, that I don't have the skills to know how to deal with people who could screw me over, and those skills can't be easily learnt. I know I have limitations, but I would rather fail my way to success.
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@Constantin Zhang Thank you! It's not easy being in a space where it is far too easy to misunderstand me, and I feel my parents have misunderstood me on this note.
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@Ernie Potts Maybe I fear what will happen to me if I become too good with women. I do believe that I can become good with women, but to what end?
Personal Brand vs Entrepreneurship
This may sound very silly, but is building a personal brand a mini version of being an entrepreneur? I am giving serious thought to becoming a personal trainer. My understanding is that they have certain similarities, except you are building more of an online presence rather than just a company with employees, physical products etc. Am I correct in saying this, or is there a lot more to building a personal brand than I think there is? I feel as though I am missing a few things when it comes to understanding these concepts.
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@Anthony DiRico Will check him out, thanks Anthony!
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@Karim Gonzalez Sure. Will keep that in mind.
Finding the best places to approach women
I've tried pretty much the whole year to approach women in the places that I felt best such as malls, walking down the street, bookstores etc. As amazing as it is, I have no results. No dates, not even 1 female friend to show for it. Is it just me, or am I not finding the right places to approach the women that I find attractive, or at least could be friends? I made a vow to myself that I would finally learn how to date properly by the end of the year, or at the very least, form a group of female friends. The only social group I am part of is a religious group. Whilst there are plenty of women in this group who I can be friends with, I have reservations over my religion. I don't know if I necessarily want to be with someone who is strictly religious. I don't think religion is necessary in our day and age for our mental well-being, but I have nothing against it. I have tried finding other groups that are non-religious but have had not a lot of success. What can I do?
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@Dan White I lost a bit of consistency largely due to my family telling me it won't work. I have gotten out of the house more often lately to practise.
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@Aaron Adusei I have approached most women on their own, but I have managed to approach groups. Some women have been receptive, but most just look really surprised or confused. I see it as a positive thing as most guys in my country never approach. I haven't gone for numbers yet, reception of my approaches has not been that great.
Mechanical Dropset for Chest/Shoulders
Standing Overhead Press, to a Seated Overhead Press, to Incline Bench Press, then Flat Bench Press. I know it's a fair number of compound movements, but should be good for those who are looking to up their upper pressing movement game. Can be done with both dumbbells and a barbell. Scale it appropriately. If you really want to punish your chest and shoulders, do this dropset as stated, then go back up. (Flat Bench to Incline, then Seated OHP to Standing OHP). For a lighter version, I would do the above, then go into a flat bench press with a weight that you can do for 20-25 reps, take it to 30 reps. Rest pause if you need to.
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27 year old Singaporean badass looking to network with men to overcome the forces of evil that threaten today's world. Always appreciate the feminine

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