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Most people think loneliness means “not enough people.” That’s not what we discovered in last night's Brotherhood workshop. You can feel lonely in a room full of people who like you, and you can feel completely fine on your own. So what’s actually going on? In this session, we broke it down: - Loneliness is an internal story, not an external situation - The way self-talk turns into self-bullying - Why feeling “rejected” is often about something you’re telling yourself - How inauthenticity (even subtle) creates internal disconnect - Why living by your values reduces loneliness more than chasing connection ever will The uncomfortable truth we really dig into is how most loneliness isn’t about other people, it's actually about the relationship you have with yourself. If you’ve ever suffered from thoughts like “I’m not enough” “No one really gets me” “Something’s wrong with me” …then you’ll probably get a lot out of this. The recording’s inside. Watch it when you’re ready: https://www.skool.com/brojo-brotherhood-2147/classroom/69942c19?md=f657a6a6618b436ca8cfd3f53834ff56

As I've hinted at recently, later in the year I'll be trialling something new: a small group of hand selected people who are pushed over a short intense period of time to seriously level-up, through being held to account and supported to take efficient, brave actions of integrity. There will only be a small percentage of people here who are ready and would benefit from this burst-of-action approach. I want to get a sense of who I should keep in mind for this experience. If you feel that you're ready to drop all hesitancy and content-bingeing, and do a few weeks of intense, focused, highly-valuable behaviour changes, guided and supported by me and others like yourself, comment ACTION below.

In this workshop-style session, we explored the 3X model, a decision-making framework consisting of three phases: Explore (thinking and decision-making), Engage (taking action), and Release (reflecting on the outcome). We looked at how people get stuck in each phase - overthinking in Explore, being too busy in Engage, and excessive reflection in Release - and found practical strategies to overcome these stuck points. Recording is now available here (VIP exclusive). Cheers!

Yesterday, after much wrangling, I finally found time to sit down and record a new podcast episode without being distracted. I've been planning this episode for a couple of weeks, and I put a lot of thought and effort into creating something helpful. After finishing up, I noticed something rather annoying... I'd forgotten to hit "record". That means for nearly 2 hours I sat at my desk talking to myself about men's shame, with nothing to show for it. A few years ago, this would have ruined my day. I would have raged and ranted, and cursed the universe for being unfair, or cursed myself for being stupid. But I was pleasantly surprised to notice almost no emotional reaction whatsoever. It was like my brain processed the entire thing at super-speed instead of taking hours or days (or weeks): - I immediately accepted that the facts were in, and the past was written in stone. There was nothing to be gained from reviewing any further. - I applied the "drop in" technique and treated this like something another person had handed over to me (so I didn't take it personally or feel committed to previous obligations). - I quickly moved on to drafting realistic next moves based on the Shortest Path decision making (i.e. asking myself, "What's the most efficient reaction to this setback so I can achieve my goal of creating this podcast?") - I automatically reframed this as "practice" to ensure there was no sense of loss Then I remembered, thankfully, that my back-up recording had at least captured the audio, so I found it easy to identify what I could work with, and my brain adapted to this information and arrived at, "Well, I guess this can just be an audio-only podcast this time." Now, the back up recording isn't high quality, so I had to enhance the audio, and my wife will have to work some magic when she does her editing. It's still a hassle. But what I loved about this experience is that I got to skip over the pointless SUFFERING stage that most people go through when things go "wrong". This wallowing in "Why me?!" never provides any benefit, and only delays the necessary next moves that you always have to take anyway.