After over a decade in a narcissistic relationship I finally broke free. I went to therapy. I did the work. I thought I’d healed. Then I fell in love again. 3½ years later I was discarded by text. And lost the little girl I’d loved like my own. That’s when I truly understood trauma bonds. Not just from living through one – but from living through two. As a qualified healthcare professional already specialising in infant attachment, I decided to study adult attachment – so I could understand what had happened to me, and help others break free too. This course is everything I learned. From lived experience, professional training, and years of study into how attachment and trauma bonds actually work. If you’re stuck, going back, or wondering why you can’t just move on – This was built for you. ———————————————————— WHAT’S INSIDE: Section 1: The Brutal Basics • Understanding what you’re really up against • Why this feels impossible and why it’s not your fault • Includes your Game Plan going forward Section 2: Recognize the Fantasy • Signs of a trauma bond • Decoding the emotional whiplash • Unravelling the illusion • The Love Bomb, Devalue, Discard cycle • Understanding the impact • Create your Ick List Section 3: Unplug From the Grid • Red flags • Rewiring brain glitches • Radical acceptance • Boundary Up • No Contact • Journal Like a Boss • Oops I Slipped Up • Toolkit includes: Clarity Hack, Create Your Zen Den, Boundary Script Section 4: Feeling All the Feels • Feelings First Aid Kit • Grief • Fear & Anxiety • Confusion & Self Doubt • Anger and Betrayal • Inner Conflict • Letting Go of Guilt • Toolkit includes: Pause and Redirect, Breathe it Out, Name to Release Section 5: Reconnect With Reality • Let’s Go • Power Up Your Connections • Spark New Joy • Untangling Your Past • Claim Your Power • Toolkit includes: Trauma Release PMR, Somatic Shaking, Mind On Thoughts Off, Letting Go, Affirmations Section 6: Embrace & Move Forward • Decoding Love • Green Flags

This pulls the whole thing into one place. Why trauma bonds form, why it feels impossible to leave, and what helps when your brain keeps dragging you back. You can see the full layout and the tools that go with each part, so you are not trying to stitch together advice from ten different places. If you are already inside, go at your own pace. It is built to come back to.

See the original content here: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DQMJpBojXr9/?igsh=MTk5d2VoMWlseHJhZQ== The comment: “Avoidants literally are terrified of being hurt. Connections feels scary. First priority is safely, they go silent to regulate and feel safe then get punished with your anger for needing to feel safe. Grow up anxious people please and stay away if you can't respect other people need to feel safe too” A comment like this can pass for “trauma-informed” if you haven’t lived through it. But when you have, you know exactly what it is. This is the kind of language that leaves people doubting themselves while the other person walks away clean. Let’s go line by line. 1. “Avoidants are terrified of being hurt.” Sounds compassionate. But this flips the entire emotional burden onto you. Their fear now becomes your responsibility. 2. “Connections feel scary.” A blanket statement that makes your need for closeness the threat. It’s no longer a dynamic. It’s your fault for wanting more. 3. “They go silent to feel safe.” Classic rebrand. Abandonment becomes regulation. Withdrawal gets renamed as nervous system safety. 4. “Then get punished with your anger.” This is the DARVO pivot. You react to the disconnection. Now you’re the attacker. They’re not accountable. They’re the victim. 5. “Grow up anxious people please.” Contempt masked as maturity. Mocking your attachment style while claiming the high ground. 6. “Stay away if you can’t respect that others need to feel safe.” Weaponised morality. Your boundary becomes abuse. Their silence becomes self-protection. You’re cast as unsafe just for wanting emotional honesty. This is how anxious partners get framed as toxic. This is how avoidants avoid. Recognise any of these?

When something in your life isn’t working, what do you usually do first: 1️⃣ Push harder 2️⃣ Overthink it 3️⃣ Numb out 4️⃣ Avoid it 5️⃣ Burn it down Comment with the number.

If you’re here, it probably hurt more than it should have. Or lasted longer than people thought was reasonable. Or left you questioning yourself in ways that still don’t make sense, even though you’ve thought about it a gazillion times. This space is for that. I’ll be opening a few 1:1 emotional extraction calls in the next week or two. Not therapy. Not reflective. Just a clean break for people who already know the truth but can’t seem to stay gone. Watch this space if you know you need that. In the meantime, introduce yourself if you like or just lurk and read 🙌