Recently joined the group to learn how to better manage my focus, build consistent daily habits, and turn ADHD into a strength rather than an obstacle. Excited to learn alongside all of you!

📅 Daily Check-in - October 6, 2026 💭 Reflection: "haven't checked in for 3 days, weekends I usually don't but yesterday was messy I had meetings but didn't really plan them so 5 meetings on one day, dentist in the morning drove my son to school afterwards , bet had to pick him up again at 3;30 pm, so thats 1 hour gone from productivity but sort of quality time also. The weekend was great! lovely weather , laid back didn't do too much. I read a mindbug on FB what made me wonder about myself in my marriage, I complain I am not happy, because my wife isn't as soft as I like, but on FB there were 20 lines why your wife acts so masculine ... and I realised I don't behave like man: I let things go their way, get to it when I like, so my wife picks it up she does the garden, weeding , mowing cutting branches , she allways does the laundry or better to say the whole housekeeping besides running a lawyers agency, I am working from home spending hours and hours trying to understand myself and why I am dissatisfied, after all those years I realise I never completely stood up from the crash six years ago, not taking controle not being a man; so my wife has to.... so that is a good insight to work on ! My mind was focussing on leaving but now I see an escape to save this family. Also a drawback a candidate I placed 2 years ago was looking for another job, I looked exact to his specifications about a job outside automotive, no cardealers , reached out to new prospects with the right jobs, after two weeks I reached out to the candidate:her replied: I allready had a few jobinterviews at cardealers ( 2 of my clients) so not really interested anymore... so lost 10k of revenue which i quit desperatly need because of hyperfocus and procrastination Right now I feel... motivated One small win today... went to the gym! I'm letting go of... focussing on the bad in my marriage I was hard on myself about... loosing a perfectly good candidate on whom I procrastinated My energy was highest when... sitting in the sun watching my son drive away in his tiny motorboat with his friends

I think we sometimes dismiss ADHD wins because they look ridiculously ordinary from the outside. Made the phone call. Opened the mail. Put the laundry away. Answered the email. Scheduled the appointment. But if something has generated days of resistance, completing it isn’t small just because another person finds it easy. It IS a win! What seemingly tiny thing have you done recently that deserves more credit than you gave it? For me, it was trying to get back on here more regularly. If I log in? Or do a check in, that’s a small win for me.

Saw this interesting blurb on my news shorts this morning: Sleep Research May Shift Thinking on ADHD Scientists say those with the condition often have dysfunctional circadian rhythms Generally speaking, people with ADHD tend to have trouble sleeping. But new research suggests that sleep problems might not merely be a symptom of the condition but at the root of what's causing it, reports the Washington Post. A perspective paper (not a clinical trial) in Frontiers in Psychiatry sees a strong correlation between ADHD and people with dysfunctional circadian rhythms, which govern when we sleep and wake. Physician Brandon Luu and co-author Nicholas Fabiano pull together "convergent" evidence that people with ADHD often run on a significantly later internal schedule: up to 78% show delayed sleep timing, with melatonin kicking in much later than is normal. "In other words, some people with ADHD may not simply be 'bad at going to bed,'" observes a post at Proactive Psychiatry. "Their internal clock may actually be shifted later." The researchers urge clinicians to routinely screen for circadian disruption and use sleep tracking as a cheap, low-risk tool for ADHD. The wider field is moving that way, too: Psychiatrists are probing whether misaligned body clocks underlie conditions from depression to schizophrenia, and testing fixes like morning light therapy, structured wake times, and timed exercise to "phase shift" patients closer to society's demands, notes the Post. The thinking is that in at least some cases, recalibrating the clock could ease the mind. Back to Denise now. Sounds like strategies to overcome are in line with what we've learned.

I'm doing it! Started the cold shower technique daily. I started with a bit cool and working my way up adding a bit more cold water every week. It's not that bad actually and definately gives you that dopamine rush. Thank you Jim for the tip