Grief is something that I didn't really recognize before coming here. And I'm finally trying to understand and process it now, at the fresh age of 41 lol. I've been dancing since I was 3 years old. In the last 1 to 2 years, I've developed health issues that greatly affect my ability. I thought that I was going to have to quit. But, it's such a part of my identity, I'm afraid that I won't know who I am without it. So, I've just been pushing on, while beating myself up inside for feeling not good enough. After rehearsal last night, (which ended with me face planting into the floor as a lift fell out, after I already had to take a break due to my spinal injury), I spent some time with myself. And I grieved the dancer that I was. I'm not sure that I've actively done this yet. Perhaps I have done some subconsciously, but I don't think that I have really fully done it consciously. And I still need to work through it more. But, I'm glad that I finally recognized that I need to fully grieve it, so that I can start to accept the dancer that I am now.

Without going into any real detail about my past I’ll share enough to say at 73 I’d acquired some serious wounding and trauma from no diagnosis and …. I’m here thriving. Thank you @Jim Ebbelaar By joining forces with JT I’ve been working with my future self and 3 aspects of me from my childhood … last night during my closing nightly ritual I developed the storyline for a children’s book with these three as part of my closing the day. After sharing it this morning in a chat with JT he helped me realise something …… Jim Teri, So, before you go make that second cup: now that you see they were guarding you all along, not broken, guarding, what do you owe them? I owe them my life. Jim Yes. You do. And here's the thing you can't miss, Teri: you already started paying it. Going back for the three-year-old. Building the dear little one until she'd speak. Sleeping so the whole system could come out of the red. That's not gratitude you owe someday. That's a debt you've been quietly paying every morning at the window with the birds and the coffee. They kept you alive so you could get here. Now you keep them alive by living. Same direction, finally. Go make that coffee. Let this one just sit in your chest a while. It doesn't need another word from me. This chat right here with Jim’s Twin coupled with every 8 hr sleep, completed body doubling session, morning + evening check-in, completed worksheet has been me quietly paying and honouring myself. This works!... ADHDHarmony works by meeting yourself one step at a time. Thank you Jim!

I've got this. Everything is going to be okay. I'm not an incomplete person just because I'm sick. I ooze potential and talent and it's time to let myself shine like the badass bitch that I am.

Hi, my name is Andressa, I’m from Brazil but have lived in London for 21 years, and I'm currently a full time single mother looking after my 15 years old ADHD daughter, and trying to get my life back on track in between - so why not to squeeze a my own late ADHD diagnosis for shock. I have reinvented myself many times, qualified and word in HR, Admin NHS Health and Education. You can ask me questions about: - Anything. I love questions and I love answers even more. I want to get these things from ADHD Harmony: - OMG... Finally understand what is part of my personality and what is ADHD Symptom, how to find balance between them and how to use one to support the other instead of sabotage myself with one or the other, or both. - Find my tribe, as it's been a very long lonely journey of being an "alien" in the neurotypical world. For fun, I like to: - I love playing games, it doesn't mean that I'm good at them. I don't mind wining or losing at them, but playing with people is my fun, cards, Uno, board games, bowling, just dance, karaoke.... anything that will make you laugh without thinking.

This is one of my favorite ridiculous fun fact!! @Linda Trup 🤣🤣🤣