A very heathy approach to learning….
Came across this a while ago but it was a brilliant example of a mistake that people do when they start their journey with spirituality. It resonated with my experience so much. I have read, I have listened to endless lectures of Buddhist masters, other teachers, spiritual gurus etc. I got it all intellectually right in my head. I understood and knew what’s it all about. But every time I’ve tried to submerge into meditation, into contemplation, or simply even tried to track my thoughts I could not do it. I was disappointed, sour, expected this to work faster, even straight away. and when that kept not happening, I was giving up for a while, being disappointed and thinking that perhaps it is something that others can and I cannot do it. Then I came across a fantastic lecture of Alan Watts, where he compared this struggle to the struggle of a child trying to learn how to write. Imagine that a child comes back home from a primary school class and the homework is to learn how to write the letter “a”. The child tries and tries for days but his work looks nothing like the letter a. There is also a parent watching the child. Every time the child is unsuccessful the parent says “you are terrible at it, you should be able to do this by now, you will never get it, better give up all together, you just can’t write”. Does any parent do that? Of course not. What the parent does : slowly encourages the child, praises for even the smallest successes, understands the process, which is not very straightforward but also knows that those small steps may one day, turn the child into a poet and at least into a literate adult. And that this takes time, and patience and practice and encouragement. And laughs at the silly scrabbles that meant to be the “a”, and back to the practice, on and on. Till it’s done. Of course we are the child and the adult of this story. I’ve changed my entire practice after reading this. I needed this. I realised that I was the “wrong approach parent” to my spiritual practice and this really encouraged me to continue, even if the results were not always so immediately apparent. Im miles ahead since that day thanks to day and my only wish is that Alan Watts could still be alive. What a great guy and an enlightened person he was.