I found myself on two edges. At first, I would give myself time to cool down and then genuinely believe I was overreacting. So I wouldn’t address it. In reality, nothing was resolved. The emotions were suppressed, and the issue itself stayed open, even if it was small. Then I tried the opposite. I would speak or write in the moment, with the mindset that I will apologize for the tone later, but the issue needs to be addressed now. That helped with speed, and at least people knew there was a problem. Over time, it affected perception. The message was there, yet the delivery started to define how I was seen, and biases around being an emotional female didn’t help. So I combined the approaches. When I feel emotional, I write everything out, but I don’t send it. The next day I don’t reread it either, because I don’t want to re-enter that state. Instead, I turn it into a problem. I feed it into AI and ask it to structure it as a business case. Then I adjust it from that level — what is the issue, what needs to change, what outcome I’m aiming for. This way the emotions are processed, the issue is still addressed, and the message lands in a format people can actually work with.